I was 14, had it with my first bf because I wouldn't do regular sex. I think once I got over the fear of it was when I was able to like it.

All good advice, thank you - I mean, even outside of the anal thing dating is fraught for anyone, so I think I will worry less and while I may go on a few dates with people who aren't sexually compatible, that's not the worst thing that could happen! Halfheart, I cracked up at your dramatization - t...

Guys who like anal sex aren't super uncommon, so keep your chin up. And try not to be afraid to firmly say no to vaginal. Goading someone into a sex act they don't want to perform is not okay. Excepting dom/sub couples, I guess? There's a handful of those at this board ... Eh, I gotta ask: do you o...

I've kind of given online dating a shot, though the only problem is that if I put anything about sex out there right off the bat, I basically ONLY get contacted about sex. No amount of explaining that I'm not JUST looking for sex (but have specific needs for sex) seems to reduce it. Maybe I need to ...

Hi - good to see other women here! About ass to mouth, I've done it a few times, but only when I was EXTREMELY clean (like a couple of enemas clean) because my BF at the time asked for it. The only thing I could taste or smell was the lube (flavored) and it made him really happy. It's not something,...

I have been to doctors, it's called vaginismus - the muscles get VERY tight - but none of the usual ways of treating it did anything for me so I stopped trying and just kind of deal. Like I've said that to people before but some of them act like it's all in my head - for some women it is psychologic...

Sorry, I was dumb and posted a reply for a different topic in this one!

I've been with a few different boyfriends, not a ton. I mean, it's not like anal is just for casual sex since it requires a lot of trust and preparation and stuff.

So, I should say that vaginal sex has pretty much always hurt me, and anal sex doesn't really. All my exes either wouldn't do anal with me at all or they would insist on having vaginal sex with me even though it hurt, which caused the break-ups. I guess I need advice on how to bring it up to a boyfr...

Wow, thanks you are all really nice!

I mean, I have had anal sex before, actually most sex I've had was anal because vaginal sex has always been painful. I just never knew that there were people who only had anal sex; all my exes wanted both LOL!

Hello, everyone. This is an interesting site. I'm looking forward to seeing what others have to say as well as sharing my thoughts. I'm learning my way around so forgive me if I don't respond right away. Please share any tips that can help me assimilate. Thanks! Oh, hi - also from Chicago so its ni...