- Only use ass for pleasure for a certain time, ignoring penis/clit ->improves pleasure (could work for both of you) Does this actually work? He's not into chastity in any case. If I don't have non-penetrative sex with him, he will watch porn and get himself off. Unlike some girls I'm fine with tha...

Thanks for all the advice! Perhaps if you could learn to let your guard down a little, he might be able to do the same. Could you be plugged at the same time? Or, perhaps use a feeldo? That is the dildo that penetrates your vagina the same time as his ass because it is double ended. I've since tried...

Some background is needed here. Past bad experiences with men have led me to loathe penetration. I've also got vaginismus. I've given my bf handjobs and blowjobs, but I don't really get much out of it alone. There's some light BDSM in our relationship where we take turns switching. It started last y...