I would recommend reading "Anal pleasure and health" by Jack Morrin, who is himself a medical doctor and has studied the subject intensively. His conclusion is the same as those mentioned here: When practised safely, anal sex does not increase the risk of incontinence. What one must keep in mind is ...

Ah, I had somewhat suspected you guys might be involved with each other. Good for all of you!

As for the initial question in this thread, I'd just ignore it and not feed the troll.

What works well for me is kegel exercises in general, to get a feel and control over my pelvic floor, and during sex itself, to consciously relax those muscles with each out breath. Works great!

Welcome to the forum. Fellow German here. Feel free to browse and contribute and share, there's no offense in being who you are.

That sounds great! So I take it everything is back to normal (or better) after the BBL?
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I never felt comfortable with vaginal sex, there was something that never completely pleased me, I didn't understand it, when I started practicing anal sex I realized that I didn't like vaginal sex, I didn't achieve the same pleasure and I didn't reach orgasms. Like I got them with anal sex, then I...

I'm curious, so a question for those to whom virginity is an important concept: Does a *guy* lose his virginity when he has anal sex with a girl? Or does he need to have vaginal sex for it to count?

I honestly don't think the idea of "virginity" makes much sense. You could say someone is inexperienced in one way or another, but not having had a cock in *one specific orifice* is supposed to make you special? That's rather weird.

That's very interesting. Do you enjoy this kind of jealousy or does it make it harder to live the swinging lifestyle with him? Or do you enjoy it precisely because it makes it harder? ;) Its a new feeling ive been having. It makes me want him more when we are alone together its more meaningful. Im ...

It might in some way. For me, it certainly helps with getting a better feel for how my muscles feel at any given time, whether they're tense or relaxed. It could be a reminder for you to do the kegel exercises during the day. Plus, it feels rather nice if you've got a good plug.