You want me to be flexible about something that turns me off??? I can handle not having an orgasm. But I'd rather watch paint dry than waste time in bed pleasing someone else at my expense. A man would be considered a barbarian to force a lady to have anal sex if she didn't want it. Or to force her ...

You've made another assumption here. I don't do anal for the orgasms. I've only once had an orgasm during anal. It's always an assumption that women must orgasm which is why many will fake it just so the man finishes. A lot of women have never orgasmed. I never orgasmed until I was almost 30 (which ...

Talking about something or bringing it up in conversation is not the same as wanting it exclusively. As my experience found, it just means he has another hole. He still predominantly is motivated by vaginal sex. I recently struck up good rapport by email and phone calls with a great guy. The convers...

Impatient? You mean I should grit my teeth and put up with vaginal sex - like a lady who doesn't want anal would have to grit her teeth and put up with anal sex, while secretly hoping that her new partner will cross over to the other side, a few months down the line? I'm done with sacrificial sex wh...

My life isn't driven by my search for an anal loving partner. That was not the point of this thread. I didn't say, I can't find an anal loving guy. Just that I've made the error of allowing something to start with a conventional guy. And I know he won't be happy being anal only. Before him, I was in...

Talking to my friends and family about this is not an option, even with careful picking! And not even just because I'm from a conservative, non-western background (and it is their right to be conservative about things and something I should respect. Talking about any aspect of a person's sex life re...

I remember that happening. It was a reunion with the first guy that ever tried anal with me. The first time was a disaster. Big cock and no experience, pushing it all the way in at first attempt. Swore me off anal for more than two decades. Then when I tried it again, I got lucky as the guy was smal...

But his helpful reply was worth the wait. :) This is the only forum I know of that gets me. I wouldn't want to have to over-analyse what I say. I've deleted a few posts and edited another as I felt the conversation was below the usual friendly standard we keep to on this board. Please try to keep on...

If you ever see a black woman walkig about with a t-shirt that says, "Butt Plugs Are For Wimps" then you'll know it's me. ;) I like Open Other End too. Ambiguous enough to wear in polite company and pretend not to know what it's about! Ever thought of getting 'open other end' tattooed across your Mo...

Thanks Urabus. Even though I've been stalling and not allowing a second meeting, I can only stall for so long! I'm going to be very firm and train him! I think once he gets how happy it makes me, he'll understand it isn't an add-on. I consider anal sex to be vanilla. Not kinky. I think he's just tra...