Patience! As an ex Kiwi I can tell you that NZ women are more open minded than most!

And, you guys looking for AO women should bear in mind that you have to train them, not find them.

There will be a chorus of 'no vagina' from others around here but in the end (!) it's a matter of what works for you. Leaving your vag alone but having the occasional clit orgasm to help keep the area happy and relaxed until you're ready for AO might be a good middle ground. Keep us posted on your p...

I think you'll find your butt has come to associate anal sex with discomfort and so can't fully relax. Which of course leads to more discomfort. Make the most of being single by some regular anal masturbation, being sure to avoid any sort of discomfort. You'll probably have to start with something q...

It's not uncommon for women who have given birth to experience changes to their digestive system for a while which makes anal sex uncomfortable and is also hard to talk about. The common experience of parenthood is that for the woman sex and spouse become less important for a while. If this is the c...

To get back to your original question: about half way through a long and rambling sex life (I'm something of a senior citizen around here) I worked out that it was better to be upfront about my AO needs as soon as the subject turned to sex. After all it's just another part of who I am, no point havi...

Using lidocaine may have the opposite effect to the one you intend, even turn her off anal for ever. The worst of anal pain comes from muscle spasms, not friction. A numbing agent is not likely to stop the spasms and even if it dulls the discomfort during sex she'll be really sore when it wears off....

I'm spending a lot of time in SE Asia this year where every bathroom has one of these: http://www.thebumgun.com (I'm sure they're even more affordable elsewhere on line). As standard they offer a very refreshing experience and are a great way to prep for some anal fun. Every western bathroom should ...

Ease up on the scepticism, KeepItReal. I had similar views at one point but in recent years I've had a series of female partners (including one keeper) who not only enjoyed anal sex but in some cases insisted on being anal only. The disconnect is that women are far less likely to make anal the main ...

Especially for older couples it can be like starting your sexual journey all over again, with all the intensity that goes with that. For me it signifies a complete break with sex as a reproductive activity and everything that goes with that, (mating, setting up house, child rearing), allowing the pa...

I don't think you'll ever get an accurate answer to that question. In the Fetlife community, which currently numbers about 600,000, there are maybe half a dozen women who show up when AO is discussed, whereas hundreds discuss their enthusiasm for anal sex On the other hand I've always believed that ...