We found the same thing and it made our relationship stronger beyond just the sex. Because anal is much more intimate and connected than vaginal you are more aware of the others needs and feelings. And we were more relaxed by both doing something we both like rather than something just one of us di...

I feel a little sick reading about this. He sounds like a monster. But I think you know that. Most people looking for advice already know what they should do, they just want it confirmed. The question is why come here?

Although I didn't understand it at first (in fact it scared me) when my boyfriend said that he wanted me to be anal only with him, I did eventually appreciate his honesty, and knew and trusted him enough to know this wasn't about abuse or some power trip for him. I see his side more clearly now that...

I'd love to hear how the two of you are getting on. You've obviously given this careful consideration and thought which is both unusual and commendable. Far too many women will summarily dismiss the whole thing as a possibility. Mind you, too much thinking it over can also get in the way - try and ...

I have very strong O's from anal compared to vaginal (which are rare anyway).
I'm very sub with my boyfriend (and previous) and get aroused by the psychological side.
I like seeing how much he gets out of it and the pleasure it gives him over vaginal.
Its far more intense and intimate.

My boyfriend was the one to get interested before I was. He read about it somewhere on the internet, possibly tumblr I think. He later spoke to me about it and asked if we could give it a try. Even though I love anal, its not an idea that would have come to me independently. I don't know why really....

I'll admit it was my boyfriends idea. at first. But once I decide on something I need to feel I believe in it enough otherwise it just won't work. I actually felt more pressure on me before when I had just learned about this and he put the idea to me. The actual doing is easier than it seemed. Not w...

You could also try plugs. We used them quite a bit as a warm up for a while and found them helpful and fun. I'll see how we go. I may reconsider. I don't know why but I find them slightly intimidating. We have started to use spoons position you recommended. My boyfriend was initially reluctant to c...

We have been using crazy amounts of lube. I don't think it can be a friction issue as we do reapply and keep things super smooth throughout. But I've taken on board what you said and we are extending the warmup period and once in he knows he has to keep still until I feel relaxed enough for him to b...

No he doesn't pound hard. At least not often. It's the duration and because he wants to have sex for the same time that we did with plain vaginal. What with it being tighter I thought he would be cumming sooner but it doesn't seem to have made any difference. He'll just slow down or stop for a break...