It's not just a matter of gender. Even experienced anal receivers can experience severe pain and even damage from a partner who has no idea what they're doing. They need to know you and trust you, even a little bit, before they go ahead. They're not going to choose someone whose only criteria is tha...

Have you checked out FetLife? (Free to join.) It has something very similar. In the Anal Classifieds group there are a couple of thousand members. Once you discount women who are gay or in search of easy money there are close to zero women in the group. The are other anal related groups which are su...

Anal sex should not be painful or uncomfortable to someone who's getting it regularly.
Maybe you could challenge him to improve his technique so that you'll want it more often?

It's interesting that when this very popular question is asked it's almost always by people with little or no anal experience. So the many many people who are having regular anal right now have discovered that it's nothing much to worry about. Although I've never been fortunate enough to have a 'dai...

Check out Reddit and elsewhere for pictures of 'traps'. They're not all Photoshopped ...

It seems that you're having trouble making it into the sigmoid colon although yours is a little deeper than most. The trick is probably to bear down as though you're having a big bowel evacuation. This will relax the muscles around the sigmoid. There will always be days when it just doesn't happen (...

That's disappointing, I'm sure you expected things to turn out differently! - try a daily dose of psyllium husk to make things less fluid back there. (Try to find a 100% variety, there are commercial products that contain it but often in small amounts.) - your sphincter muscle tone's probably not qu...

Can't help you with all those questions but getting him in should be easier if you bear down as though you're emptying out. (If you've done your prep it won't get messy.) Doggy may be the best position for you but I'll defer to those with more expertise in this area. Congratulations on heading for A...

It's clear @SoSad that you haven't bothered reading any of the other posts around here or the many other places where people post thoughts and experiences of anal sex.
That makes you a troll. Go away.

Congratulations on thinking outside the box (so to speak!) in search of a fulfilling sexual relationship. If you're doing anal sex you're actually more likely to be in a hetero relationship than a gay one (explanation if you're interested) and in recent years there has been a huge surge in interest ...