I'm the maverick of the group, and appear to be the lone representative of a different angle to the anal-only concept. I love vaginas. I love a woman's anus, and also my own. However, my wife of 20 years became anti-sex (of any kind) several years ago, once she became fully menopausal (a real shock ...

This sounds so much like my own marriage, I'm only glad to hear I'm not alone in being stuck in such a vexing situation. I can offer the advice that you don't want to hear: - If you have reached this impasse, despite your obvious efforts to be understanding and adaptable, no amount of further effort...

It may be absurd for most folks, but I have found that the trick is to avoid orgasms. The orgasm is, at a very deep level, a decision to release energy. My goal has been to accumulate and circulate energy. If, fundamentally, orgasm is a move to initiate and externalize new life, then to not orgasm i...

Lucky guy! I am very envious. I LOVED role inversion, when my wife was still active. I guess I still do, only it's difficult to be sure, since I have no sex partner anymore. The kill switch got activated on my wife's sex-drive, so I now play alone. Over the course of years, I seem to have gotten use...

Interesting. In what way?

Perhaps I am confused because the Dom/sub description always gives me the idea that one party is supposed to feel empowered, while the other gets a thrill from feeling disempowered.

Oh. I would have guessed wrong. Funny! I thought it was some metaphysical energetic exercise.

Yep, I play alone also. I used to play with my wife - vaginal for her, and anal for me to add spark to our interludes - until she became completely asexual. Once that happened, she wants no form of sex at all, let alone anal. Then I find she considers my un-vanilla interests weird and perverted. We ...

I certainly welcome a bisexual person. I'm 85-95% straight, with the other 5-15% being outposts of bisexual curiosity. You mention "power exchange." Though I could hazard a guess as to what I think it ought to mean, it sounds like a recognized thing that people do, which has a common description amo...

I'd advise not getting down on yourself, if you do happen to stimulate your penis. You will only get yourself locked into a useless vicious cycle. I'd advise to INTEGRATE your seemingly conflicting drives, and understand them for what you can truly discover them to be. I, myself, have gradually move...

I can admit I would not like NO vaginal sex, even though I prefer anal. However, I know I'd be fascinated to ask questions and learn why. This, in itself, would be immensely titillating. I know I'd be fascinated by the fact that a woman wanted only the kind of penetration that I myself could also ex...