Progress takes time, and is often a journey, and while you've likely just begun on figuring out what will ultimately work for the both of you, I think people's positive and encouraging reactions are because you both are willing to work to get there and that's a really good sign for both of you. In ...

Hello Dani. English as well, but a few years older. I've ended up here by accident/circumstances which I hope to resolve one way or another. You on the other hand look like you have it all figured out. I wish I had such confidence! Feeling decidedly antiquated and out of touch!

I'm definitely more relaxed and finding the penetration easier. Much to my surprise the increase in frequency has not been so much of a problem as I expected. Wow! My congratulations! :o How often do you have anal sex? Every days, couole times of week? How long? 8-) I think it is a little early to ...

Our next therapy/counselling session tomorrow. I'll let you all know how things go there. At home there has been a tangible change in the atmosphere. We've (under instructions) spent a couple of evenings just doing fun stuff together which doesn't involve sex. An we have to set aside some time each ...

Regent wrote:

uncertain wrote:We went to our therapy session on Friday.

Could I ask you - what was that? I mean, that is a kind of the therapy???

Yes, relationship counselling.

I can see why you would want to grow your community. Even though I still feel like I'm on the outside, I don't feel as alienated (for want of a better word) as when I discovered this "lifestyle". I can see that there are people for whom this matters a lot, even if most people have never heard of it....

First of all... you’re amazing for taking the initiative and wanting to find out more. Really?? I thought I had been caught on the back foot and this was damage control. I do want to find out more about my husband. You are all right in that communication is what we need. But I had thought neutral t...

How much anal is too much anal for her? Does she think it's weird I focus so much on her asshole? How much vaginal do I have to go through before I can ask for anal again so she doesn't think I'm weird? Will she be in the mood for anal tonight? That describes where I am right now. Even though she l...

taylork wrote:Its better for everyone and like has been said before there are lots of benefits for the woman.

What specifically?

We went to our therapy session on Friday. I was really proud of him as I had half expected him to renege on his promise. Of course it helps when I'm dangling a carrot and not beating him with the stick! Obviously it is VERY early days and there is no way to be sure this will work but (or how serious...