Bootylicious41 you're probably having trouble getting past the fold at the inner end of your rectum. For most people this takes some practice. Push the dildo in gently while simultaneously bearing down and relaxing internally. At first you may get there some days but not others. It's worth the time...

I take your point about privacy but you are committing a breach of trust. And trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship.
My ex wife found our daughter's private diary and decided to talk to her about issues she found there. A decade on, they have still not fully reconciled.

After many years of studying people's sexuality (at first and second hand) I'm here to tell you that sexuality - and the reasons behind it - are far more varied than we ever used to think. Now that we are much freer to talk about it, it turns out that the majority of people are interested in anal pl...

Well done, that's quite the achievement!

Do you ever get hard now?

I wonder whether there should be a special term for guys like you? After all AO is hardly rare among gay males. Penile Anal Only would do it, but it sounds a bit clinical.

Only you will know whether this would work for you but I (an older male) had a very satisfactory, kinky-as-fuck, anal only, discreet thing going with a gay woman for quite a while. Her gay-ness removed the usual romantic undertones and ensured that things were pretty uninhibited. It added a bit of s...

Welcome, Cassie! You have a very interesting background.

Would you like to tell us how infibulation has worked out for you?

You're not going to change this guy's mind. You're dealing with a zealot, not a person of intellect. He sounds like one of those public figures that rant this way about homosexuality or extramarital sex and are subsequently found to be indulging in it. If your own mind is in any doubt you will find ...

Have you tried using less lube, or no lube at all (patience required!)? As she is quite experienced that may go better than you expect.

Have you considered the possibility that your lube (or your method of applying it) could be somehow contaminated?

There are a few of us here that have long term experience and none have reported problems.

To set your mind at rest you could try asking around the anal fisting boards in Reddit or Fetlife. Taking a fist on a regular basis should be a good test!

I can't offer you any sources either (although I do have some decades of giving, receiving, and reading everything I can find about anal sex!) . In fact, reliable sources may not exist. People who are surveyed are reluctant to talk about anal sex in any detail, and until recently most medical profes...