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Why is Orgasm denial a thing?

Posted: Tue Feb 27, 2018 7:12 pm
by fantasizing-realist
My veiw on it is the same veiw I have on "Teasing": "You're just beating around the bush; get your pants off already.

I mean if it's for sadomasochistic purposes, wouldn't it be more fun to go in the opposite direction? Induce Sensory overload. If I ever get married (I'm saving myself), I won't take "I'm getting sensitive right now" to mean "stop," I'll take it to mean "Go harder, go faster you goddam sexual tyrannosaurus."

Re: Why is Orgasm denial a thing?

Posted: Tue Feb 27, 2018 8:11 pm
by analsexonly
For a variety of reasons.

A buildup of arousal through suppression of release over a period of time can make the occasional, less frequent orgasm significantly more powerful and satisfying.

For others, orgasms—especially clitoral orgasms—can be a pleasurable and satisfying release in the moment, but are emotionally draining and disappointing after the fact, a sort of downer that makes a person feel bad after it's happened and lose interest in sex for extended periods of time after. Orgasm denial/clitoral denial possibly combined with anal orgasms (which don't have that effect for many people) can be a way around this, allowing pleasure along with a constant buildup of arousal and no emotional crashes post-orgasm.

Re: Why is Orgasm denial a thing?

Posted: Sun Mar 25, 2018 3:11 pm
by Alittle-flower
For me, it creates a heightened sense of self and awareness of my body. Plus, to be honest, having someone in control of that, for me anyway, makes me ache and drip in ways that I can't describe.

Also, like explained above, sometimes after a clitoral orgasm, I crash a bit and lose sex drive and interest. This is part of what brings me to this forum, hoping I can have my first anal only orgasm and not have that impact :)

Re: Why is Orgasm denial a thing?

Posted: Thu Jun 13, 2019 1:52 pm
by Senecasky
We went to denial because hubby was unhappy getting sex maybe once a week. Now that I'm edging/teasing myself, he has a horny me jumping on him the minute I'm home. I'm also much more adventurous when I'm like this and much more into giving head, which was also lacking.

What I get out of it? More intense orgasms when I'm given permission, and honestly I love feeling so sexual all the time. Sex is all over more satisfying, especially now that we're doing more anal.