Wife fear from Anal sex
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Thanks a lot
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backdoorlover is experienced in this area and his guidance is wise. I too advise you to go very slow on each session and progress in very minor ways until her body anticipates the touch and finally penetration. Over time my girl and I learned to love rimming (me to her only) and it is now 100% regular when we are together, even on those occasions we do not have anal. It is funny how our fantasies can become real...
If you and her are on the same page, you can work through it
If you and her are on the same page, you can work through it
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Sheesh! Listen to your wife! If she doesn't want it, respect that. You'd be a fool to keep insisting. Anal isn't for everyone. In fact it is only a minority who enjoy it. If anal is SO important to you (yawn!) you should have sorted it before you got married. So, ffs, listen to her and respect her.
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notnice66 wrote: ↑Sat Aug 03, 2024 11:19 pmSheesh! Listen to your wife! If she doesn't want it, respect that. You'd be a fool to keep insisting. Anal isn't for everyone. In fact it is only a minority who enjoy it. If anal is SO important to you (yawn!) you should have sorted it before you got married. So, ffs, listen to her and respect her.
Of course a couple should be respectful of each others wishes and they should also be respectful of each others desires. Just saying no without knowing anything about a subject is ignorant and inconsiderate. You are correct in that anal is not for everyone, but they should try first, and not just a couple of times. And read.
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I am very opposed to this response of @notnice66 for a very clear reason.
My ex wanted anal, she said, but when I tried she simply couldn’t relax, could let me in and enjoy it. No matter what I tried as foreplay, fingers in her ass felt great to her. Always, but once my cock went in, she acted like I tried shoving in a baseball bat. So naturally I gave up on trying to have anal sex with her, out of respect.
Later in our marriage, after 4 years of not trying anal anymore, I came to know she had been fucking another man the last 14 months of our 23 year marriage. The most disturbing part to me, was that the other guy assfucked her all the time and she could take his cock ballsdeep, enjoy it and give him all the time he desired to reach his optimal orgasm.
So no, I don’t buy the whole “I can’t handle your cock” routine. She simply never wanted me in her asshole but never spoke out. She kept telling me she fantasized about being assfucked by me.
So back to the topicstarter. He has every right to want anal sex. She has every right to refuse. But fear isn’t the reason to refuse. Fear to me simply means there’s a trust issue going on. His wife needs to put trust in him and guide him by telling him what she does like.
Or she must give another, better reason to explain why she doesn’t want to do anal sex. A simple “because I don’t want to do it” would do. Women need to learn to communicate directly instead of circumstantial.
My ex wanted anal, she said, but when I tried she simply couldn’t relax, could let me in and enjoy it. No matter what I tried as foreplay, fingers in her ass felt great to her. Always, but once my cock went in, she acted like I tried shoving in a baseball bat. So naturally I gave up on trying to have anal sex with her, out of respect.
Later in our marriage, after 4 years of not trying anal anymore, I came to know she had been fucking another man the last 14 months of our 23 year marriage. The most disturbing part to me, was that the other guy assfucked her all the time and she could take his cock ballsdeep, enjoy it and give him all the time he desired to reach his optimal orgasm.
So no, I don’t buy the whole “I can’t handle your cock” routine. She simply never wanted me in her asshole but never spoke out. She kept telling me she fantasized about being assfucked by me.
So back to the topicstarter. He has every right to want anal sex. She has every right to refuse. But fear isn’t the reason to refuse. Fear to me simply means there’s a trust issue going on. His wife needs to put trust in him and guide him by telling him what she does like.
Or she must give another, better reason to explain why she doesn’t want to do anal sex. A simple “because I don’t want to do it” would do. Women need to learn to communicate directly instead of circumstantial.
Backdoorlover’s quote:
“Ass to mouth is the only right way to have sex”
“Ass to mouth is the only right way to have sex”