In addition to much of what has already been said, I feel like anal sex is really going "all the way." The best sex for me involves every body part, every combination, every nook & cranny: no anal for me feels like I'm missing out on an opportunity, even if I know or trust that a different opportunity would present itself in the future. To deny anal seems as much of a deprivation--with apologies to ALL the anal absolutists on the list--as denying the clitoris; it's like having sex while keeping your shirt on.
As much as I'm passionately (excessively, according to the negative feedback I've received from some partners) devoted to the shape and feel (and taste!) of a woman's ass, I'm equally turned on by the level of intimacy, trust, and feeling of reciprocity that anal sex produces. When my partner cums from anal sex it seems like an extra achievement, a breakthrough--a grand slam home run, to return to a familiar idiom!
Two of my (many!) favorite sex acts are stroking a woman's clit with my fingers while she rides two fingers in her ass: a wonderful way to experience an orgasm, for both partners (even if only one is actually cumming!), and a terrific advertisement for how intense and pleasurable anal sex can be (or become). The other is licking the ass in advance of penetration, watching and feeling my partner's growing enthusiasm and readiness for the ultimate plunge. I could engage in either activity indefinitely, and wouldn't even think too much about my own climax--however much I would eventually welcome it. And for the record, I have on numerous occasions forsaken my own orgasm, even multiple nights in a row, when my partner didn't feel like anal--in order to save myself for when she did. Both the delayed gratification and its eventual fulfillment rank among my very fondest memories, sexual or otherwise.
I feel compelled to add two notes of dissent to previous remarks: I don't find anything unattractive or undesirable about female genitals; as Woody Allen has said of his "mediocre orgasms," even the least interesting (?!) pussy is incalculably more interesting than any part of my own body! I make this point in spite of the fact that I definitely and demonstrably prefer anal sex as the ultimate finish line for any sexual exchange. I also feel compelled to say that I don't associate anal sex with dominance, and I find that this is the most difficult argument I have to make when trying to persuade a partner toward the merits of anal; that I find the argument difficult to make doesn't invalidate the sincerity of my position. But my approach to anal isn't a desire to impose my will, either figuratively or physically, on my partner. It's rather to convince her, by demonstration, that we share more as a couple than our reproductive genitals (if that's not redundant?) as a pathway to pleasure, intimacy, and fulfillment. My position, to access an Orwellian idiom, is not "pussy good, anal bad" but "pussy good, anal BETTER"--which is to say, not another instance of masculine domination in a world already overburdened with male privilege, but another pertinent avenue of sexual liberation and equality. Seriously.
