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Natural instincts

Posted: Mon Oct 14, 2013 2:02 pm
by marcus
There is an anon post today on tumblr: https://www.analonlylifestyle.blog/2013 ... oing-anal/

Basically they think that people have a natural instinct to want to have sex anally. I've often felt this way myself (or at least about myself) and I wonder why this is.

Does anybody else feel the same? Or did you come to like anal through experience and experimentation?

Re: Natural instincts

Posted: Tue Oct 15, 2013 3:36 pm
by prettypink
A couple of my partners had said, more or less, that it was all they ever thought about and all they ever wanted. Does that make it an instinct? I suppose if they have always been that way. And others were preoccupied with the act of anal. Most had thought about trying or fantasized. When anal was introduced it would certainly change how they felt about vaginal - you could tell they subsequently found it less of a thrill.

For those to whom it means so much, it can indeed be a burden I've noted. That's just the way they are.

Re: Natural instincts

Posted: Thu Oct 17, 2013 12:08 pm
by French Lover
I would also say it is an instinct.
At thirteen, with my very first contact with the porn world, I was quickly way more turned on by anal.
I also know a girl - a friend of mine - who couldn't watch porn if there was no anal scene. Her own words: "Without anal, porn is useless". Some people do have the natural inclination for anal.

But I guess the same discussion could be done on BDSM, homosexuality, and other "abnormal" sexual behaviours.

Re: Natural instincts

Posted: Sat Oct 19, 2013 1:18 pm
by taylork
I know i've always been into girls asses. And I never saw what other guys saw in vagina's. When I have anal sex it just feels like i'm in the right place, but in her vagina is all wrong. I can't describe it any better sorry.

Also the orgasms i had through vaginal sex didn't satisfy. They are over so quickly and I don't feel so much. With anal its a completely different story as I cum MUCH harder and it goes on and on for longer. You know when you still pulse for a minute or two after and get that really hazy feeling?

Re: Natural instincts

Posted: Fri Jan 10, 2014 9:51 am
by marcus
taylork wrote: Also the orgasms i had through vaginal sex didn't satisfy. They are over so quickly and I don't feel so much. With anal its a completely different story as I cum MUCH harder and it goes on and on for longer. You know when you still pulse for a minute or two after and get that really hazy feeling?

Exactly this. I'd always felt something wasn't quite right. Orgasms were always underwhelming, although I did find oral somewhat better. But still, when I was younger I was always left with the thought "Is this it?". The question is, is it better because it is really better, or because I'm getting the kind of release my body craves?

Re: Natural instincts

Posted: Sun Mar 09, 2014 4:37 pm
by taylork
marcus wrote: I'd always felt something wasn't quite right. Orgasms were always underwhelming, although I did find oral somewhat better. But still, when I was younger I was always left with the thought "Is this it?". The question is, is it better because it is really better, or because I'm getting the kind of release my body craves?

I think it could be both. I can't see how anyone can honestly say that anal isn't better.

Anyway, i think this natural instinct is there in most guys but they are just in denial for some reason. In women too i think but just harder to awaken.

Re: Natural instincts

Posted: Sat Mar 15, 2014 1:48 pm
by prettypink
taylork wrote:
marcus wrote: I'd always felt something wasn't quite right. Orgasms were always underwhelming, although I did find oral somewhat better. But still, when I was younger I was always left with the thought "Is this it?". The question is, is it better because it is really better, or because I'm getting the kind of release my body craves?

I think it could be both. I can't see how anyone can honestly say that anal isn't better.

Anyway, i think this natural instinct is there in most guys but they are just in denial for some reason. In women too i think but just harder to awaken.

My latest boyfriend follows the pattern I've seen in others. It turns out he had long held fantasies about having anal sex, and I'm talking years probably since teens. Then once he tries anal it is all he wants to do. To be honest I think often in these circumstances vaginal never much appealed to them but it was the only way of establishing any sexual relationship.

Re: Natural instincts

Posted: Sat Mar 15, 2014 9:02 pm
by Marquis
prettypink wrote:
taylork wrote:
marcus wrote: I'd always felt something wasn't quite right. Orgasms were always underwhelming, although I did find oral somewhat better. But still, when I was younger I was always left with the thought "Is this it?". The question is, is it better because it is really better, or because I'm getting the kind of release my body craves?

I think it could be both. I can't see how anyone can honestly say that anal isn't better.

Anyway, i think this natural instinct is there in most guys but they are just in denial for some reason. In women too i think but just harder to awaken.

My latest boyfriend follows the pattern I've seen in others. It turns out he had long held fantasies about having anal sex, and I'm talking years probably since teens. Then once he tries anal it is all he wants to do. To be honest I think often in these circumstances vaginal never much appealed to them but it was the only way of establishing any sexual relationship.

My question is, do you think you are just happening to find guys very interested in anal, or is your openness to anal unlocking the inherent preference for anal in all men?!

Re: Natural instincts

Posted: Sun Mar 16, 2014 7:42 am
by prettypink
Marquis wrote: My question is, do you think you are just happening to find guys very interested in anal, or is your openness to anal unlocking the inherent preference for anal in all men?!

I often ask myself the same question. A higher proportion of the men I have known have liked and/or had a preference for anal than those who did not. I don't always remember who introduced it into the relationships, but if they hadn't I would at some point since it is important to me. You could be right in that I'm to 'easy' :lol: .

But all men? There were a couple of definite no's. I didn't question the reasoning too much and now I wish I had. From reading around most of the male hang-ups are about hygiene or associations with homosexuality or their ideas about masculinity. If you could strip that away (which is all learned behavior) would there still be some underlying attraction to anal. Who knows...

Re: Natural instincts

Posted: Sat Apr 05, 2014 2:19 pm
by Robert
All I know is that when I saw anal for the first time I was blown away and knew I had to try it. I had always felt in some way a little queasy about sex but that was like fuel to a fire and I couldn't stop thinking about it after. Unlike like some on the forum I've read about I'm not turned off by or dislike vagina's by themselves. I do think though that the look of a penis penetrating a vagina looks kind of disgusting while the same penis in an anus looks incredible.