Re: Natural instincts
Posted: Wed Apr 08, 2015 4:49 pm
It depends what you mean by "natural" instincts. One common use of that term is that a behaviour is natural just in case we have an evolutionary disposition to do it. In this sense, no, I don't think there is a natural instinct to have anal sex. I'm not sure what benefit anal sex would have had for survival; whereas it would obviously have had several costs. Namely: increased chances of infections (both for the recipient, as sexually transmitted diseases are more easily spread through anal sex, and the penetrator, through UTIs caused by bacteria in the rectum); and significant chance of damaging the anus/rectum (even today, with all the information available, and easy access to lubes, toys, etc, many people still don't perform anal sex safely - our ancestors would have been even worse). So if anything, I expect there would be a natural instinct against anal sex.
If on the other hand you just mean: do some people have a desire for anal sex that they repress due to negative attitudes about it? - Yes, I'm sure that's true. That's the case for lots of sexual desires, unfortunately.
A couple of comments about the quote from Anonymous that you linked to:
because neither find vaginal very satisfying - That's just false for many people. There are plenty of people who find vaginal very satisfying. For many people, vaginal is the primary form of sex. It's the pinnacle of sex. (They're not wrong. They just have different tastes to us.)
you can see the difference simply by studying porn. You can really sense the extreme level of intense pleasure experienced by couples fucking anally whereas vaginal fuckers almost look robotic or bored - To be frank, I suspect that this guy/girl is just projecting his/her own attitudes here. Anyway, even if it were true that pornstars having anal sex look like they're experiencing more pleasure than pornstars having vaginal sex, you have to keep in mind that pornstars are acting. In general, you should be wary of using porn for information about real people's sex lives and sex tastes.
If on the other hand you just mean: do some people have a desire for anal sex that they repress due to negative attitudes about it? - Yes, I'm sure that's true. That's the case for lots of sexual desires, unfortunately.
A couple of comments about the quote from Anonymous that you linked to:
because neither find vaginal very satisfying - That's just false for many people. There are plenty of people who find vaginal very satisfying. For many people, vaginal is the primary form of sex. It's the pinnacle of sex. (They're not wrong. They just have different tastes to us.)
you can see the difference simply by studying porn. You can really sense the extreme level of intense pleasure experienced by couples fucking anally whereas vaginal fuckers almost look robotic or bored - To be frank, I suspect that this guy/girl is just projecting his/her own attitudes here. Anyway, even if it were true that pornstars having anal sex look like they're experiencing more pleasure than pornstars having vaginal sex, you have to keep in mind that pornstars are acting. In general, you should be wary of using porn for information about real people's sex lives and sex tastes.