What's qualifies as "losing your virginity" to you?

[singleinDC]

I'm curious to what you all feel about this. Virginity doesn't have a universal meaning today...

[analsexonly]

Intercourse (anal or vaginal) would be the more traditional definition, but that excludes lesbians and so any sexual contact has become more common. I tend to not use it generally and instead use "vaginal virgin" and "anal virgin" when referring to the concept at all.

[Strident]

For me, I would say vaginal is the key thing.

I guess I tie that into fertility family making and child bearing.

I actually has anal before vaginal, and in my head all the while I had never had vaginal I still considered myself in some sense "a virgin"

[MrsCanassman]

Intercourse (anal or vaginal) would be the more traditional definition, but that excludes lesbians and so any sexual contact has become more common. I tend to not use it generally and instead use "vaginal virgin" and "anal virgin" when referring to the concept at all.

thanks analsexonly. I voted vaginal and anal but not oral, but I realize I've also referred to first time experiences as "losing my (fill in the blank) virginity" ie. Vegas virgin, roller coaster virgin, tattoo virgin, etc. So.... Can I change my vote?

[Kelly_ukf]

Intercourse (anal or vaginal) would be the more traditional definition, but that excludes lesbians and so any sexual contact has become more common. I tend to not use it generally and instead use "vaginal virgin" and "anal virgin" when referring to the concept at all.

thanks analsexonly. I voted vaginal and anal but not oral, but I realize I've also referred to first time experiences as "losing my (fill in the blank) virginity" ie. Vegas virgin, roller coaster virgin, tattoo virgin, etc. So.... Can I change my vote?

I would use those terms to like bingo virgin (still am) Vegas virgin anal virgin atm virgin fisting virgin etc all work well

[singleinDC]

Intercourse (anal or vaginal) would be the more traditional definition, but that excludes lesbians and so any sexual contact has become more common. I tend to not use it generally and instead use "vaginal virgin" and "anal virgin" when referring to the concept at all.

thanks analsexonly. I voted vaginal and anal but not oral, but I realize I've also referred to first time experiences as "losing my (fill in the blank) virginity" ie. Vegas virgin, roller coaster virgin, tattoo virgin, etc. So.... Can I change my vote?

I would use those terms to like bingo virgin (still am) Vegas virgin anal virgin atm virgin fisting virgin etc all work well

I don't think a lot of women lose their bingo virginity until they're 70. But once they try it, they're hooked.

[singleinDC]

For me, I would say vaginal is the key thing.

I guess I tie that into fertility family making and child bearing.

I actually has anal before vaginal, and in my head all the while I had never had vaginal I still considered myself in some sense "a virgin"

That was always my impression. Biblical and ancient sources (who invented the concept, anyway), seem to use it to refer to a woman's being deflowered -- typically with the breaking of the hymen.

It's an artificial construct, anyway, and the word's become even more useless because it's become so ambiguous.

[Sgt_Valk]

Young women break their hymen all the time from washing too roughly in the area, or playing with themselves before sex... it is almost more uncommon for a woman to have an intact hymen prior to having sex due to common things such as tampons, fingers or cleaning... many women break it before they have their first period.

[MissChief]

I don't think "virginity" is a general thing. It's very specific to me, like vaginal virginity, anal virginity, etc. A "virgin" I think would be someone who hasn't had any sex with anyone, even if it's nonpenetrative.