Is Anal "nice" or "nasty"?

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Is Anal "nice" or "nasty"?

Post by Strident » Mon Jan 09, 2017 8:06 am

It seems there are two schools of thought amongst people who are pro-anal sex.

One group says anal is misunderstood. That it can be gentle and initimate and loving. That it doesn't have to be messy. That it doesn't have to be painful. That it shouldn't be taboo.

The other group says Anal IS taboo...and that's why it's great! It's not romantic. It's dirty, it's nasty, it's rough, quite possibly messy and maybe even painful.... But all of those things are fucking hot...so embrace it!

It's kinda like darkness and light, the angel and devil defence of anal!

Which group would people put themselves in?

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Re: Is Anal "nice" or "nasty"?

Post by singleinDC » Mon Jan 09, 2017 8:13 am

I don't think it's nasty at all and I think it is a normal sexual act, but even more intimate than the others. Anal Only relationships shouldn't be thought of as any different than vaginal only; it's just a personal preference.

Other people think it's nasty though, so that does add a little fun thrill. But if that aspect went away I'd still want AO.

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Re: Is Anal "nice" or "nasty"?

Post by analsexonly » Mon Jan 09, 2017 8:19 am

It can be both, it's all in the mindset.

It can be romantic, intimate, passionate, intensely pleasurable, and both physically and emotionally satisfying.

It can be hard, rough, fast, raw, intense, even a little bit painful sometimes.

It can be whatever you want it to be, and it can be all those things at different times for the same people too.

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Re: Is Anal "nice" or "nasty"?

Post by singleinDC » Mon Jan 09, 2017 8:37 am

I'll also add that many, if not most, couples doing or considering AO see it has having a dom/sub dynamic. I don't see it that way, but a lot of people consider it as "vaginal denial" that is followed by the sub upon direction of the dom. Ostensibly the sub wants vaginal stimulation, but the dom prohibits it as a way of asserting control.

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Re: Is Anal "nice" or "nasty"?

Post by analsexonly » Mon Jan 09, 2017 8:49 am

singleinDC wrote:I'll also add that many, if not most, couples doing or considering AO see it has having a dom/sub dynamic. I don't see it that way, but a lot of people consider it as "vaginal denial" that is followed by the sub upon direction of the dom. Ostensibly the sub wants vaginal stimulation, but the dom prohibits it as a way of asserting control.

That's certainly the case for some, but there are plenty others who just love and prefer anal and do it for that reason, not out of a primary D/s dynamic. There are also those who get off on vaginal denial, but not from a submissive standpoint—rather, a sort of self-assertion of what their sex organs are and remaking themselves in their own image, as it were.

So there are lots of different dynamics going on.

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Re: Is Anal "nice" or "nasty"?

Post by MrsCanassman » Tue Jan 10, 2017 6:28 am

analsexonly wrote:It can be both, it's all in the mindset.

It can be romantic, intimate, passionate, intensely pleasurable, and both physically and emotionally satisfying.

It can be hard, rough, fast, raw, intense, even a little bit painful sometimes.

It can be whatever you want it to be, and it can be all those things at different times for the same people too.

Here, here. I echo analsexonly.

I wonder if the people in the taboo camp just can't get over the poop aspect? ;)

I suppose it's still somewhat of a "dirty little secret". I've certainly not had many open conversations with my girlfriends about getting anal and loving it.

Maybe 2017 will be different. I should make this a challenge - see if we can bring up anal sex in regular conversation when hanging out with friends. ;) lol!

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Re: Is Anal "nice" or "nasty"?

Post by Strident » Tue Jan 10, 2017 6:44 am

MrsCanassman wrote:
Here, here. I echo analsexonly.

I wonder if the people in the taboo camp just can't get over the poop aspect? ;)

I think that is absolutely true. And in my mind rightly so. When you have anal intercourse, you are expressing intimacy, love, affection and intimate connection through the use of the part of the body you use to fart and poop.

I don't see how you can use it for the one function without being reminded to some degree of its other functions.

I know some people who with scrupulous use of enemas and cleaning etc like to make anal as clean as possible. I do understand that, but I do also think there is an element of missing some of the point.

For me, the reason why anal is so amazing is because it's such a complete embrace of the woman. It's getting intimate with the part of her that she is most likely to be ashamed or feel is dirty.

I personally LOVE those times when I would pull out and have some of her poop on my cock. If a girl is embrassed by it, I would love to smile and reassure her saying "hon...its OK, I love it! It's all part of YOU...its part of being physically close and intimate with you...to share even this"

When a girl goes out to a club she is dressed up to be a goddess more than a girl...hair,make up beautifully done, a beautiful dress. I LOVE that, and I'm attracted to it...but part of what makes anal sex so exciting is the idea that, behind that facade of perfection and beauty that she shows to the world...if I get her home from the club to my bed, I may get the "real" her...her smelly shit on my cock. The wet squelch of my cock hammering her, maybe some fart gas escaping.

It's like the total opposite of that perfect goddess being sophisticated and sipping a cocktail in the club...and that's why it appeals so much.

I would never want to deny that gritty nasty element of anal :) it's like a great leveller...that we are all dirty animals under all our facade of sophistication.

Make sense? :)

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Re: Is Anal "nice" or "nasty"?

Post by Haunter » Sun Apr 16, 2017 9:16 am

Strident wrote:It seems there are two schools of thought amongst people who are pro-anal sex.

One group says anal is misunderstood. That it can be gentle and initimate and loving. That it doesn't have to be messy. That it doesn't have to be painful. That it shouldn't be taboo.

The other group says Anal IS taboo...and that's why it's great! It's not romantic. It's dirty, it's nasty, it's rough, quite possibly messy and maybe even painful.... But all of those things are fucking hot...so embrace it!

It's kinda like darkness and light, the angel and devil defence of anal!

Which group would people put themselves in?

I put myself in the first group. 10000% sure
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Re: Is Anal "nice" or "nasty"?

Post by Haunter » Sun Apr 16, 2017 9:18 am

Strident wrote:
MrsCanassman wrote:
Here, here. I echo analsexonly.

I wonder if the people in the taboo camp just can't get over the poop aspect? ;)

I think that is absolutely true. And in my mind rightly so. When you have anal intercourse, you are expressing intimacy, love, affection and intimate connection through the use of the part of the body you use to fart and poop.

I don't see how you can use it for the one function without being reminded to some degree of its other functions.

I know some people who with scrupulous use of enemas and cleaning etc like to make anal as clean as possible. I do understand that, but I do also think there is an element of missing some of the point.

For me, the reason why anal is so amazing is because it's such a complete embrace of the woman. It's getting intimate with the part of her that she is most likely to be ashamed or feel is dirty.

I personally LOVE those times when I would pull out and have some of her poop on my cock. If a girl is embrassed by it, I would love to smile and reassure her saying "hon...its OK, I love it! It's all part of YOU...its part of being physically close and intimate with you...to share even this"

When a girl goes out to a club she is dressed up to be a goddess more than a girl...hair,make up beautifully done, a beautiful dress. I LOVE that, and I'm attracted to it...but part of what makes anal sex so exciting is the idea that, behind that facade of perfection and beauty that she shows to the world...if I get her home from the club to my bed, I may get the "real" her...her smelly shit on my cock. The wet squelch of my cock hammering her, maybe some fart gas escaping.

It's like the total opposite of that perfect goddess being sophisticated and sipping a cocktail in the club...and that's why it appeals so much.

I would never want to deny that gritty nasty element of anal :) it's like a great leveller...that we are all dirty animals under all our facade of sophistication.

Make sense? :)

Well, I had never seen it under this light. Interesting perspective! (even if personally is not mine) :)
Think, it's free ;-)

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Re: Is Anal "nice" or "nasty"?

Post by Buttwoman » Sun Apr 23, 2017 5:51 am

Always 'nice'. Even if it's vigorous, and fast, and just gleefully slamming ourselves together, it's still 'nice'.
Pornography has made some people think that it's punishment, or revenge, or some other twisted perversion. the fact that pornography has made 'Hatefuck' a word tells you a lot.
Culturally, a lot of people still think it's perverse, immoral, painful, or messy. These are also the same ones who have not given it a fair chance.
Anal will never be a cultural norm, but if done well, will always be 'nice'.

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