A question for the Dom/Sub people.

[bluej34]

From reading the forum, I see a lot of you are Dom/Sub. I stated in my intro that I wasn't into it but I've been thinking.....
the thing is, I hate pain! A hard smack on the ass instantly turns off all pleasure for me. But the thought of my partner controlling certain things, like ass training, wearing a plug or a remote vibe fascinate me.

So the question is, what is it all about? Does it involve pain or punishment?
I know it would have to be a discussion and agreement between the two people... just curious as to how others get there.

[AnalObsession]

I'm neither a dom nor sub(I'm a switch actually) but that doesn't necessarily require acts of pain though. Acts of domination and taking control sure, but it doesn't necessarily have to hurt. Those who like it to hurt are sadist or masochist.

[Sgt_Valk]

Yeah acts of pain are actually geared toward sadism and masochism, dom and sub relationships are legit just a kind of relationship dynamic and many dont have anything to do with pain. Being a dom just means you wear the pants in the bedroom, and being a sub just means submitting to your dom. Now every d/s should have limits. Your limits would be pain, my most recent subs hard limits were electro tortue and scat. Everyone is different.

[F655A]

I can understand the titillating thrill factor of being used as a sex toy, and also of having/using someone else as a sex object. But it all goes out the window, for me, when it is put in terms of Dom and sub.

If there was something called Sex Object Role-Play, without the dominance element, there'd definitely be a niche that would interest me.

[bluej34]

YES YES YES!!
That's what I want!

I can understand the titillating thrill factor of being used as a sex toy, and also of having/using someone else as a sex object. But it all goes out the window, for me, when it is put in terms of Dom and sub.

If there was something called Sex Object Role-Play, without the dominance element, there'd definitely be a niche that would interest me.

[AnnoMundi]

There are lots of things I like and admire about BDSM and I do enjoy watching and reading BDSM related porn. Unlike regular porn its all about the story basically. Plus like Nazis, they have the best looking outfits. I have the utmost regards for anyone who is willing to subject themselves to pain and humiliation, but those are not for me, neither in giving nor receiving. The dom/sub thing, and the outfits of course, I like very much.

[Sgt_Valk]

You can be a sex object to someone... If there is a fantasy, there is someone else is out there wanting to do that/be that.