Reality vs. Porn (essential understanding)

[Buttwoman]

In the time I've been here, it seems the average age of posters has dropped dramatically, and the central topic has gone from adults chosing an AO lifestyle, to about discussing porn.
Don't get me wrong I ENJOY PORN, but I also know it less real than a Harry Potter movie.
I have to assume these posters are single, and using porn as their sexual outlet. That's good too. Someday, tho, you will meet a 'real' woman (Yes I know pornstars are real. I mean in the same room as you, and consenting), and long before that time YOU ABSOLUTELY MUST understand the difference between sex and porn.
Some of you will say, Buttwoman, you're as kinky as Tal Wilkenfeld's hair. Yup, I've tried all those pornstar moves, because I've been doing this for over forty years!!
So, assuming you've talked the young lady into sex (preferrably anal)
If you say 'I'm gonna make your ass gape' her response will be 'Get the fuck out of my house you creep!'
If you say 'I'm gonna yank my dick out of your ass, and you suck on it?' Her response will be 'Get the fuck outta my house you creep!'
If you say 'I'm going to come all over your face, and hair' she will respond 'Get the fuck out of my house you creep!'
I think you can see where this is going. The same goes for choking her, pulling her hair, or putting two fingers in her nostrils to yank her head back.
Develop a loving and varied sex life built on mutual respect. THEN, you can suggest some advanced moves.
I guarantee you, if you enter into any kind of sexual relationship, and you try your best pornstar fucking, YOU WILL end up outside in the rain, wondering how you will get your pants back!

[amorous945]

Well said, Buttwoman! Even some of the female porn actors can hardly hide their displeasure with some of the things they're asked to do. Ever notice their expressions when they have cum all over their faces? I guess there may be some woman out there who actually like some of the things depicted in porn, like having cum all over their faces, but I've never known one. Also, the sounds- moans, groans and other things they have women say during sex are downright laughable. The sad thing about this is that most porn is made to cater to the male mentality, which is a sad commentary on how much we really understand sexuality from a woman's perspective.

Like you, I also watch porn from time to time, but more often than not I end up fast forwarding through some of the scenes or turning it off completely.

[FarmerDan]

You're right about mutual respect. Good anal sex just isn't going to happen unless the people involved are on the same page.

You need to get over your horror of porn acts though. To the dismay of the anti porn crowd the figures show sexual assault falling as porn becomes widely available. So people are working their links out on line rather than inflicting them on their partners or random victims.

Btw plenty of people (but none around here) would find your descriptions of your own lifestyle distasteful and offensive. The pot calling the kettle black?

[Buttwoman]

Methinks you missed the point by a good country mile. I like porn, and I watch it. Recently there's been a spate of posts by people who seem to have a hard time discerning the difference between real life sex, and porn movie sex.
Making porn, particularly when young, a sole sexual outlet if fine, as long as you leave that fantasy behind when you encounter the real thing.

[Haunter]

Thank you Buttwoman for opening this thread: on this very evening I was wondering "what are the real and deep differences between porn and real sex?". I watch porn regularly, I also admit I have 0 practical sex experience so far, you know. Nonetheless I would never act like my partner were a slave nor an object. I guess I would always be super gentle and passionate and (don't know if this would break the romance atmosphere) previously discuss -at least roughly- what I and she do and don't like as regards sex, since world is very ununiform and tastes very widespread. I know about myself that almost in any field I act relying on my reasoning, seldom on tradition, so such a porn-bias danger when crossing the "real-world line" should almost vanish in my case I guess.

Second issue: yes, here on the forum discussions about porn itself have grown, but as long as this doesn't cover all other things, I personally consider it just an enrichment of participation on the site

[Haunter]

...Anyway just to be more aware, if anyone experienced made a list of what, proper to porn, doesn't occur in real life, I would read all with attention

[Simba]

In my experience, I don't think the problem is confusing porn with reality, and if that would be, it'd be a very old problem. To me it's nearly the opposite: the young generation knows perfectly well the difference between porn/fantasy and reality, but keeps them separate. They watch extreme porn, they have extreme fantasies, they invent personas and say extreme stuff online, but then... not much happens in real life. They don't know how to cope with all the fantasy potential that's imposed on them from the Internet, and a good chunk seems to just decide to live in fantasy and not bother with reality any more (furries being a good example).

After all, your own introduction is: "it seems the average age of posters has dropped dramatically, and the central topic has gone from adults chosing an AO lifestyle, to about discussing porn" - this isn't confusing reality and porn, this is ignoring reality and living in porn.

[FarmerDan]

It occurs to me that watching porn is not so different to watching to performers in sport or any other field.

Many people admire (say) field athletes but few in the crowd are interested in putting in the effort and making the life choices which would enable them to perform the same feats. They watch because it enriches their lives in some way.