My very first Sex was anal because the girl liked analsex and my first wish was straight anal.
A vew month later I had pussy sex the first time. It was ok...
In Future it was very important for me that a women like it in the ass: No anal no demand.
The consequence from time to time was: there is more anal possible... more... more... and on the end it MUST be anal only.
But it is very important for me that the women LOVE it so much too. Complete without pussy, and - optimally - without clit.
If a women loves or like anal it is to little for me. The only option for sexuell fulfillment is anal only... not 60%, not 90%... 100% anal every time. Otherwise something misses immediataly. It feels like a "leak" in the sex...
AnalOnly82 wrote:The only option for sexuell fulfillment is anal only... not 60%, not 90%... 100% anal every time.
That's perfectly understandable and also not an unrealistic expectation these days. The great thing about this place is that we can see that we are all perfectly normal with our desires.
kingsman wrote:johnywest wrote: How much anal is too much anal for her? Does she think it's weird I focus so much on her asshole? How much vaginal do I have to go through before I can ask for anal again so she doesn't think I'm weird? Will she be in the mood for anal tonight?
That describes where I am right now. Even though she likes anal sex I still can't shake off the worries and a little anxiety as though the interest she has will slip away.
Thanks to you both for those comments. It's actually helpful and sheds some light on recent developments in my own marriage. Why can't men just tells us these things. It is frustrating trying to get any insight into a man's internal world!
uncertain wrote: What specifically?
For one no longer needing birth control? Think about it, how good is it for a person to constantly take chemicals and hormones that disrupt the natural workings of their bodies?
uncertain wrote: Thanks to you both for those comments. It's actually helpful and sheds some light on recent developments in my own marriage. Why can't men just tells us these things. It is frustrating trying to get any insight into a man's internal world!
That's because we quickly learn not to tell these things to women. For all the talk of you ladies being the more communicative sex talking to you is like walking into a minefield. We never know what might upset or offend you. Hell, at least a minefield is way better because you can at least retrace your steps and back out again. With women what has been said can never be unsaid.
Five years later, I talked to Carla about it shortly after we declared our love for one another. My confession was out of sheer necessity, expecting it to be a deal breaker for her, just as denial of anal would be for me. She said she'd give it a try, and within a couple of months, she told me it was much more pleasurable to her than vaginal. I got lucky with Carla. Most men don't. Most women are horrified to learn that a suitor is anal erotic, and they express that horror not only to the man, but also to family, friends, psychotherapists, doctors, and finally lawyers. Men shamed in this way become gun-shy about frank discussions with anybody about their need.
Uncertain, it warms my heart to encounter anyone in your situation as intelligent, pragmatic, sensible, and sensitive as you. It sounds like things are going well. Keep an open mind, and remind your husband when he doesn't. Carla and I did that, and we've been happy together going on 38 years.
The moment I discovered anal through porn I was hooked. Voraciously consuming anal porn. And always fast forwarding through the obligatory vaginal parts. The moment anal only porn began to emerge it was like 'why did nobody think of this sooner?' It was like coming home. The next natural progression. Like it felt completely natural.
That's me pretty much. Once I saw anal porn, it made me the hardest I've ever been, hardest orgasms also. To this day I only watch anal scenes, skipping the vaginal parts. It's naturally the best spot to have sex. No worry about pregnancies either!
Everyone knows men are visually stimulated, and seeing her asshole wrapped around my cock is the most beautiful thrilling visual. The tight sphincters followed by soft velvety warm guts is home to my cock. Hands down the best place to shoot my load - deep in her ass. Most men are ashamed to try or ask for fear of being perceived as a pervert. Times are changing though.
johnywest wrote: ↑Mon Apr 02, 2018 1:36 amTo answer the "ONLY" part, for me it's all about peace of mind, feeling accepted and not being judged.
In a regular (vaginal and anal) relationships I would always be uncomfortable and concerned. How much anal is too much anal for her? Does she think it's weird I focus so much on her asshole? How much vaginal do I have to go through before I can ask for anal again so she doesn't think I'm weird? Will she be in the mood for anal tonight? Or even worse, does she even like anal? All these thought would be crossing my mind and impacting my performance.
I feel so relieved that my wife knows that every time we get naked we are doing only anal and foreplay. I've never been happier!
This was exactly the same for me! No fussing around thinking should I shouldn't I. As soon as we both finally said we prefer anal, I never touched her pussy again. Making out my hands go straight to her little asshole, she will bend over knowing my tongue is gonna be rimming her and then my cock will be in her ass.
We both enjoy looking at her swollen untouched juicy pussy dripping with excitement.