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For some of us, leaving out PIV makes sex an equal opportunity activity, setting aside restrictive gender roles and practices and enabling us to focus more clearly on the other person.
In a regular (vaginal and anal) relationships I would always be uncomfortable and concerned. How much anal is too much anal for her? Does she think it's weird I focus so much on her asshole? How much vaginal do I have to go through before I can ask for anal again so she doesn't think I'm weird? Will she be in the mood for anal tonight? Or even worse, does she even like anal? All these thought would be crossing my mind and impacting my performance.
I feel so relieved that my wife knows that every time we get naked we are doing only anal and foreplay. I've never been happier!
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With casual relationships I love the power, that she is giving herself to me. I use her body for my pleasure. I love that it is up to me to be gentle or rough with her. This power is very addicting and I love it.
With a friend with benefits or more traditional relationship I will be much more loving with her. We can have gentle sensual anal as well as the rougher stuff as well. So, I think the answer for me is power. I love the position it puts me in and the trust that is shown by her.
Vaginal ruins that for me and is a huge turn off. I don't like to even see the word.
johnywest wrote: How much anal is too much anal for her? Does she think it's weird I focus so much on her asshole? How much vaginal do I have to go through before I can ask for anal again so she doesn't think I'm weird? Will she be in the mood for anal tonight?
That describes where I am right now. Even though she likes anal sex I still can't shake off the worries and a little anxiety as though the interest she has will slip away.
In response to the original question, from my own point of view as a man I think there are two reasons for wanting AO. One is the obvious that it feels 100% better so there really is no need to have vaginal again if it were up to me. The second is that I believe in more traditional gender roles, where the man takes the lead in things, including sexually. These days society has lost sight of the differences between the sexes and now pretends that we should all behave the same way and that differences in gender are just a social construct. So women should be more submissive and feminine. Despite all the drive for equality and so on in the last 50 years can anyone say that men and women are even happier for it?
In case anyone misunderstands, I'm not a misogynist. I believe men and women are of equal worth, but different.