AO Men: Why Anal ONLY?

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Re: AO Men: Why Anal ONLY?

Post by MeleLover9711 » Sun Jul 04, 2021 11:15 am

First of all, I am not in an AO relationship and never have been. I wish I was and I want to be. But how I came to want anal ONLY is specific to me and my circumstance. Anal had always been a very, if not the most important part of my sexuality. But as an adolescent and in my early to mid-20's, I serviced myself. But every since my wife opened her ass for loving, I am hook. I am hooked harder and stronger than any drug could do. Anal is the only sex I think about and desire. And so my desire for AO has not only come out later but is a product of my infatuation with my wife and her asshole.

But to answer your question directly, the number one reason why I want AO is to no longer feel the conflict and tension with "which hole" to have sex in. I am a giving person, my wife's pleasure is more important than my own. When we are making anal love (if both holes are available) I will inevitably wonder if she would be more satisfied and happier with vaginal. And then I would worry if I'm being selfish and undermining my sexual philosophy (my wife comes first). I want AO so I can have the peace of mind that there is no alternative for EITHER of us, ANAL ONLY.

I prefer anal for the same reasons as many of the posts before. But I want ONLY anal because I believe (remember, I have never had an AO relationship before, so this judgment is the product of my current feelings and imagination) it is the only way I can devote every ounce of my being into making love, no reservations, and no doubts.

Lastly, it has been my nascent observation that the Mind can have a multiplying effect on anal. The more devoted the Mind is to anal (imagining, desiring, enjoying) the more powerful the experience (for both parties). At a more fundamental level, authentic mental acceptance and desire is the key to truly relaxing for the act; but authentic and complete mental DEVOTION can surely bring anal pleasure to new and higher realms. If there is but anal and no other option, there can and will be no reservation or doubt with either party.

Can anyone corroborate this?

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Re: AO Men: Why Anal ONLY?

Post by amaizeg » Fri Jul 09, 2021 7:03 pm

I myself would not consider myself anal-only all by myself.

It was something that women introduced me to.

The first time a woman told me "I want you to ignore my pussy and only fuck my ass." something inside me was changed. It was like a switch had been flicked. I had liked anal before, and I had considered girl's asses the most sexy thing about them for a long time, but it had not occurred to me to lick, finger and fuck their anus until girls encouraged me and asked me to do it. Let alone to only focus on that.

Ever since that fateful moment when a woman put the choice before me and I got harder than ever at the thought of that being the only way to have sex with her from then on, I became completely consumed by the idea of anal-only.

Now, an anal-only woman is the most powerfully erotic manifestation of female sexual energy I can think of. There is nothing quite like it. It is something she chooses as her sexual identity rather than something that was imposed on her by biology or social conventions. An anal-only woman is a woman dedicated to pure intimate lust, and that makes them amazing for me.

I have never felt more close with someone sexually as I have with the two truly anal-only women I have met in my life, and I don't think I ever will be except if I meet another one.

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Re: AO Men: Why Anal ONLY?

Post by Hitman1386 » Thu Jul 15, 2021 10:25 pm

gracie wrote:
Tue Mar 20, 2018 12:25 pm
I've seen some similar discussions on here, but not exactly...

Most men I meet are down for anal... it's the "only" part of the anal only lifestyle that they can't wrap their minds around. Even the guys I've talked to now in the AO community... when you talk to them, they just really like anal, but they're happy to have vaginal sex as well.

For me, "only" is the key word. I'm not interested in using my vag sexually in any way.

So guys... what brought you to the anal only lifestyle? And what, if applicable, particularly appeals to you about an anal-only woman?

I didn't start out wanting to be AO. After my wife & I had kids. We started doing anal more & more. So much that we always finish with anal. If she wanted to give up vaginal & go AO I'd be down with it. She did give serious thought to it, but decided she wasn't ready to go full AO. However she does go full AO in April & November.

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Re: AO Men: Why Anal ONLY?

Post by Backdoorlover » Sun Jan 09, 2022 2:42 pm

gracie wrote:
Fri Mar 30, 2018 6:46 pm
Thanks, guys. But still... most of these answers are about why you like/prefer anal. Got that. No mystery there. I think most men do. My curiosity is very specifically the appeal of anal ONLY from a male point of view. In other words, why would you prefer to not include vaginal sex?

Going to push up another old topic to answer this quoted question.

While having sort of a vanilla marriage I fantasized a lot about anal sex when masturbathing. And the longer I fantasized about it, the more the “exclusive anal” thing felt very attractive. The idea of a woman liking to have her ass fucked so much, she willingly declines from vaginal sex was the most arrousing thing I could think of.

So now I am with an anal loving woman, who really likes the anal only idea, I am actually living a dream I’ve been having for a decade at least. And hearing her say “I don’t miss vaginal sex” is the cherry on the cake.

I love the idea of anal only because the woman I am with chooses to not have her pussy fucked anymore. She willingly chooses to only have her ass fucked. To me it’s the most powerfull statement possible. And a true gift to me.
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Re: AO Men: Why Anal ONLY?

Post by Spike_Se7en » Mon Jan 10, 2022 10:38 am

I'm not AO yet, I still engage in menstrual/period vaginal sex but I definitely prefer anal sex. There are many reasons: I love how much harder girls seem to come from it. I love how intimate it is. I love the feeling, the smell and taste of the female rectum and anus...it's truly a magical orifice to me. It's so velvety and soft. Vaginas can get *too* wet for me, compounded by the fact that I'm hyperspermic, after fucking for too long, I don't feel it as well, it gets too slippery. When I'm fucking a girl's butt, though; I can keep coming and coming and all I do I just keep it properly lubricated! I'm long enough that I can stimulate the G-Spot anally, and with my reach, I can feel if my partner's bowels are full (which also turns me on quite a bit, I love the idea of literally "pushing her shit in," lol). I like getting my cock dirty, which the butt is REALLY great at (as well as menstrual sex). In my opinion, girl butts are actually magic. No matter what's going in *or* out of them....
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Re: AO Men: Why Anal ONLY?

Post by Colt1911 » Mon Jan 10, 2022 7:49 pm

Backdoorlover wrote:
Sun Jan 09, 2022 2:42 pm
gracie wrote:
Fri Mar 30, 2018 6:46 pm
Thanks, guys. But still... most of these answers are about why you like/prefer anal. Got that. No mystery there. I think most men do. My curiosity is very specifically the appeal of anal ONLY from a male point of view. In other words, why would you prefer to not include vaginal sex?

Going to push up another old topic to answer this quoted question.

While having sort of a vanilla marriage I fantasized a lot about anal sex when masturbathing. And the longer I fantasized about it, the more the “exclusive anal” thing felt very attractive. The idea of a woman liking to have her ass fucked so much, she willingly declines from vaginal sex was the most arrousing thing I could think of.

So now I am with an anal loving woman, who really likes the anal only idea, I am actually living a dream I’ve been having for a decade at least. And hearing her say “I don’t miss vaginal sex” is the cherry on the cake.

I love the idea of anal only because the woman I am with chooses to not have her pussy fucked anymore. She willingly chooses to only have her ass fucked. To me it’s the most powerfull statement possible. And a true gift to me.

My story is quite similar to yours. We’ve been married for forty years, but anal only for about the last four. I fantasized about it most of our marriage and she liked anal play, but she thought I was too thick. Hormone therapy for both of us and moving to larger toys eventually led to penetration and she orgasmed within minutes. She never orgasmed from vaginal penetration.

Once in a great while she’ll want vaginal sex, but quickly asks for it in her ass. I lick and play with her pussy, but after play, she only wants it in her ass. We are both anal only because it gives both of us the most pleasure possible. The icing on the cake is that she often squirts during anal penetration. Like you, the appeal to me is that she loves it… we both love it.

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Re: AO Men: Why Anal ONLY?

Post by AnalJay » Tue Jan 11, 2022 1:56 am

johnywest wrote:
Mon Apr 02, 2018 1:36 am
To answer the "ONLY" part, for me it's all about peace of mind, feeling accepted and not being judged.

In a regular (vaginal and anal) relationships I would always be uncomfortable and concerned. How much anal is too much anal for her? Does she think it's weird I focus so much on her asshole? How much vaginal do I have to go through before I can ask for anal again so she doesn't think I'm weird? Will she be in the mood for anal tonight? Or even worse, does she even like anal? All these thought would be crossing my mind and impacting my performance.

I feel so relieved that my wife knows that every time we get naked we are doing only anal and foreplay. I've never been happier!

We are an Anal Mostly couple, hope you don’t mind me commenting in this thread, we have had periods of Anal Only, but we both still like pussy so we are Anal Mostly. But I agree with the above, when we decided to swap from the norm and make Anal the default form of sex it was such a relief. You don’t have to put the word Anal In front of the word sex anymore or ask, ‘where do you want it,’ because you both know where it is going, that is so freeing.

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Re: AO Men: Why Anal ONLY?

Post by Analgooner » Fri Jan 14, 2022 3:43 am

Hey,
I am a guy who enjoys to please myself anally too, so i guess the fact that i have a better idea of how it must feel for the woman makes it better than vaginal sex.
So i would prefer a relationship where we both can use each others asses, try different toys, wear matching plugs, ..... over a boring old fashioned "that is the wrong hole" kind of relationship.
Also the idea of turning that old view around and declaring the pussy as the wrong hole kind of turns me on :)

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Re: AO Men: Why Anal ONLY?

Post by AnalJay » Fri Jan 14, 2022 4:52 am

Analgooner wrote:
Fri Jan 14, 2022 3:43 am
Also the idea of turning that old view around and declaring the pussy as the wrong hole kind of turns me on :)

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Re: AO Men: Why Anal ONLY?

Post by Ozzy » Wed May 04, 2022 8:01 pm

gracie wrote:
Tue Mar 20, 2018 12:25 pm
I've seen some similar discussions on here, but not exactly...

Most men I meet are down for anal... it's the "only" part of the anal only lifestyle that they can't wrap their minds around. Even the guys I've talked to now in the AO community... when you talk to them, they just really like anal, but they're happy to have vaginal sex as well.

For me, "only" is the key word. I'm not interested in using my vag sexually in any way.

So guys... what brought you to the anal only lifestyle? And what, if applicable, particularly appeals to you about an anal-only woman?

Wow.... This is the woman of my dreams!

Gracie, I don't actually like vaginal sex, I find it to be boring, it has happened to me that sometimes I can't even get hard with the vision of a vagina and the thought I have to penetrate it because that's what is expected from me. Other times I can perform vaginal sex normally, but it really feels like nothing, it seems almost pointless and in my brain it's like my dick isn't supposed to go there. But I like to see vaginas, touch them and I also like to perform oral sex on a woman and I also like blowjobs. But denial of vaginal penetration is for me essential for a 100% sactisfatory sexual life.

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