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Is denial of orgasm in disguise one of the main appeals of anal only?

Posted: Wed Oct 03, 2018 1:26 pm
by analytical
What do you think?

Anal orgasms are more pleasurable, there is something, well, deeply satisfying in having ass stimulated, but does body really treat anal orgasms in the same way as genital ones? Isn't it that anal orgasms are, technically speaking, side effects of (very) high arousal and indirect stimulation of genital nerves, but despite feeling better they aren't full orgasms?

Being anal only seems (at least to me) like a continuous chastity with no way to reduce arousal and using some other part of the body to achieve huge sexual pleasure (including kinkiness of playing with ass and rectum), but never full release.

A question for folks who have been anal only for long: does it feel like chastity for you?

Re: Is denial of orgasm in disguise one of the main appeals of anal only?

Posted: Wed Oct 03, 2018 2:55 pm
by yosemitespam
DW and I aren't all ideological about it--we use toys, fingers, tongues, whatever works. The principle is, we aren't done till she comes.

Our anal journey started about 15 years ago when she had her first anal orgasm from fingers alone.

Ole'

YS

Re: Is denial of orgasm in disguise one of the main appeals of anal only?

Posted: Thu Oct 04, 2018 7:52 am
by analytical
Fifteen years, it's truly a lifestyle! How long have you been anal only?

I think the questions stands. It's often said that anal orgasms don't decrease arousal - how does it work for your partner? Did it feel for her at the beginning as if she was denied "real" orgasm?

Re: Is denial of orgasm in disguise one of the main appeals of anal only?

Posted: Thu Oct 04, 2018 2:57 pm
by yosemitespam
We aren't. We usually start out with some tongue work on my part, followed by a toy or two in her front (usually a nice gold bling rabbit) and me in the back--sort of a DIY DP situation. The anal thing keeps me focused while she's working on it. When she gets off (not even slightly subtle) , we usually finish up with me in the front. So not all ideologically pure anal-only, but it works for us. (Not that I wouldn't like finishing in the back more often, but I'd be an idiot to rock the boat.)

Cheers

YS

Re: Is denial of orgasm in disguise one of the main appeals of anal only?

Posted: Sat Oct 06, 2018 2:06 pm
by analytical
Whatever works for you two, though I guess her ability to cum from anal would be a strong argument in trying to convince her to be anal only / mostly.

Re: Is denial of orgasm in disguise one of the main appeals of anal only?

Posted: Sat Jan 05, 2019 11:51 pm
by gurlcrazy
I totally disagree on this one. We're anal only *because* the orgasms are more intense.

Re: Is denial of orgasm in disguise one of the main appeals of anal only?

Posted: Sun Jan 06, 2019 11:58 am
by relic
I have wondered about this.

Is my definition of anal-only different than other people here? I consider my wife and I to be anal-only...for about ten years or so. What anal-only means to me is that when we make love it will be anal sex. It is what we both want and it is better than before we were anal-only. Her sexual satisfaction is as important as mine, or more. Why would she let me in there if it wasn't good for her? I want to be let in there so I have to make sure she wants it while we're in the bedroom with each other, and all day by being a good man, husband, provider, etc.

Anyway, by anal-only, I mean when we have sex it is anal only. We always spend time together to get in the mood, talking about it, or watching some movies, etc. She always uses a vibrator for clitoral stimulation while I'm inside her. We both perform oral sex on each other during foreplay. The vibrator will give her orgasms but the vibrator while having anal sex will give more and better orgasms because it is sexy and exciting and loving. We don't bother with vaginal sex anymore because it seems vanilla. That's what I mean by anal-only for over ten years. We don't bother with vaginal intercourse (her choice) and I never want her to perform oral sex on me to completion because I'd rather do anal every time.

I feel like I won the lottery. We have a great, vibrant, and loving sexual relationship. She is excited about it and she stays in shape and looks great. It's exciting to have our sexy lifestyle secret that others don't likely have. None of my awesome, fully-satisfying sex life would be possible if I was a selfish lover or selfish person in general. She gives because I give and I give because she gives. It's a virtuous cycle of love.

Re: Is denial of orgasm in disguise one of the main appeals of anal only?

Posted: Mon Jan 07, 2019 6:28 am
by analsexonly
@relic No, that's very much the definition of anal only. Choosing to have anal sex instead of vaginal sex is the fundamental principle of the anal only lifestyle.

Some people choose to go a step further and exclude clitoral stimulation, either because they enjoy the arousal-enhancing effects of orgasm denial or because they can have anal only orgasms without any clitoral stimulation, and that is also anal only, but not a requirement to be anal only.

Re: Is denial of orgasm in disguise one of the main appeals of anal only?

Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2019 7:12 pm
by gromm
For some maybe.

My wife on the other hand, cums easily and often. Like 40 or 50 times in the course of a normal session.

One of my favourite things to do is to get her going, and if the stars align just right, I can ram my cock into her ass to the hilt, and that alone will make her orgasm. So I stop right there and wait for her orgasm to subside, and do it again. One orgasm per thrust.

It's fun to keep that up for some time.

Your mileage may vary of course. Some people can't orgasm from anal at all, or from just anal, and they need other stimulation to actually get off.

But that hardly applies universally.

Re: Is denial of orgasm in disguise one of the main appeals of anal only?

Posted: Tue Aug 20, 2019 7:20 pm
by Mistress'lapdog
analytical wrote:
Wed Oct 03, 2018 1:26 pm
What do you think?

Anal orgasms are more pleasurable, there is something, well, deeply satisfying in having ass stimulated, but does body really treat anal orgasms in the same way as genital ones? Isn't it that anal orgasms are, technically speaking, side effects of (very) high arousal and indirect stimulation of genital nerves, but despite feeling better they aren't full orgasms?

Being anal only seems (at least to me) like a continuous chastity with no way to reduce arousal and using some other part of the body to achieve huge sexual pleasure (including kinkiness of playing with ass and rectum), but never full release.

A question for folks who have been anal only for long: does it feel like chastity for you?


This explain EXACTLY what i think about being anal only! To Have only anal sex is a constant state of arousal with no release, keeping the woman in all time hornyness, a hornyness that can only be freed by anal stimulation, which is a non natural stimulation since her anus is not a sex organ but a excretory organ, this obligates the hornyness to spread over her body and explodes in milions of sensations, this process turns the anal orgasm so much harder and intense than an orgasm from her genitals... is like was breaking down the own system of her body, she was cheating on her sexual organs like in a videogame you cheat to get advantage. The anal orgasm is per nature a cheat on the clit, because the clitoris is much longer than most people thinks, there are legs of clitoris that spreads around the vaginal duct and the rectum itself, so in someway, the woman that want to not to touch her clit, is actually cuming from her clit, because anal orgasm is nothing more than a cheat on clit and a side effect of the constant hornyness that anal only lifestyle promotes...

I know this because i do this with my penis, i masturbate it almost everyday and never cum, just keep acumulating arousal, and doing this i experience the same effects that anal only women relates...