Can you convince me that anal sex is not objectively unhealthy, humiliating and degrading?

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Can you convince me that anal sex is not objectively unhealthy, humiliating and degrading?

Post by SnowBananaMilk » Fri Jul 31, 2020 9:50 am

I'm curious about anal sex, but everytime anal is brought up people talk about how unhealthy and humiliating it is so I'm doubting things. They say for instance that vagina has evolved and is designed to be penetrated, but anus has not evolved and is not designed to be penetrated that's why it's the riskiest sex act when it comes to STD transmission and bacterial infections and that's why anus/anal lining is prone to tearing so easily, and that men shouldn't "stick their baby-maker in the digestive tract"; https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopini ... dium=web2x

And when we say we can just use lube, people say, "you could probably stick a penis in an eye socket too if you used enough lube. Does that make eye-fucking a good idea? no"; https://www.reddit.com/r/unpopularopini ... dium=web2x

For the organs being evolved to do xyz, I told such people that humans are evolved to stay in the cave and hunt, so humans are not evolved to use the internet, use medicine, stay in a building, etc either, and if anal sex is humiliating because the anus/anal lining is not evolved to be penetrated then using the internet, using medicine, staying in a building, etc are also humiliating to humans, but they said this to me; https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueGayMen/com ... dium=web2x
False equivalence. This is like injecting yourself with a shit ton of heroin, and when someone tells you that your body can't handle that, you yell "WELL HUMANS WEREN'T MADE TO USE MEDICENE, SO FUCK YOUR ENTIRE HOSPITAL!"

I mean sure, yes, you can inject yourself with a ton of illicit substances and suffer the consequences, but don't expect people to feel positively about it, or let you encourage others to do the same

The humiliation aspect has nothing to do with evolution; that has to do with society, and hatred towards certain groups of people.

Can you convince me that anal sex is not objectively unhealthy, humiliating, demeaning and degrading?

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Re: Can you convince me that anal sex is not objectively unhealthy, humiliating and degrading?

Post by French Lover » Fri Jul 31, 2020 3:10 pm

Well…
:arrow: Not unhealthy: lots of us are having anal on a regular basis with no health issue. If you know the number of bacteria in a mouth or a vagina, you wouldn't stick your penis in it. You may have disease with vaginal sex, is it unhealthy to you?
:arrow: Not humiliating: where is the problem if both partners are willing to do so. Where is the humiliation? It is not like there couldn't be kindness or love with anal. You have to stop watching porn and have real sex.
:arrow: Not demeaning: same.
:arrow: Not degrading: same.

Well, there is a problem here. People are thinking anal is not what it is. It is sex. You may use all those argument against oral or vaginal, but it is not used against those forms of sex. Why? Because some people want that everything they don't do to be abnormal.

If you're interested in anal and want to try, go ahead and try it. As long as you want to explore, you take your time, you find the right partner who will listen to your desire, and you use lube, there is likely to have no more problem than with vaginal or oral.

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Re: Can you convince me that anal sex is not objectively unhealthy, humiliating and degrading?

Post by Samy » Tue Aug 11, 2020 7:50 am

It seems to me that a simple rebuttal would be to look at gay people: how many people in western countries still think that male homosexuality is unhealthy, humiliating and degrading?

We have tons of data thanks to this specific group, and there is no data that would back up that anal sex, by itself, may be unhealthy. If anything, not having a taboo attitude toward you ass, exploring it and taking care of it, help you detect anything unusual with it, and therefore resolve and heal any issue regarding it (issues that happen whether you do anal sex or not, and may get really bad if ignore your ass).

As for humiliation and degradation, that's relative and judgemental, it's entirely up to you and your partner. Some people can think it is a bit of that and actually take pleasure and well-being from it: I'm naturally submissive in bed, so the idea of being "used" and dominated through anal sex turns me on (especially now that I do cock denial). But I can also fuck as an equal with my partner, or even take initiatives and lead, and exchange a lot of tenderness and love while being fucked in the ass.

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Re: Can you convince me that anal sex is not objectively unhealthy, humiliating and degrading?

Post by julietagc » Wed Aug 12, 2020 11:15 pm

You have already published this topic and they respond to you, what it says here makes a lot of sense:
French Lover wrote:
Fri Jul 31, 2020 3:10 pm
Well…
:arrow: Not unhealthy: lots of us are having anal on a regular basis with no health issue. If you know the number of bacteria in a mouth or a vagina, you wouldn't stick your penis in it. You may have disease with vaginal sex, is it unhealthy to you?
:arrow: Not humiliating: where is the problem if both partners are willing to do so. Where is the humiliation? It is not like there couldn't be kindness or love with anal. You have to stop watching porn and have real sex.
:arrow: Not demeaning: same.
:arrow: Not degrading: same.

Well, there is a problem here. People are thinking anal is not what it is. It is sex. You may use all those argument against oral or vaginal, but it is not used against those forms of sex. Why? Because some people want that everything they don't do to be abnormal.

If you're interested in anal and want to try, go ahead and try it. As long as you want to explore, you take your time, you find the right partner who will listen to your desire, and you use lube, there is likely to have no more problem than with vaginal or oral.

"Pussy ignored, ass gaped" ;)

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Re: Can you convince me that anal sex is not objectively unhealthy, humiliating and degrading?

Post by Elyeria » Thu Sep 24, 2020 3:26 pm

I know I'm late to the party here, but nothing is inherently humiliating or degrading unless you let it be. If a man wants to do this with you because he wants to degrade you and that's what you don't like, he's not the right one for you. Anal and Vaginal sex have a lot in common, why is one degrading and humiliating and the other's not? Sex is supposed to be fun. I would never tell anyone to have sex in a way they don't want just because someone else does - that's not ok. Just think about what it would look like to be ok to you and start a conversation.

Kiss, make out, snuggle, then instead of tender loving vaginal, hand him some lube and try having some tender loving anal sex. If it's the first time
for both of you, invest in a pretty little plug to play with as part of the foreplay. Treat it EXACTLY like you would vaginal sex... fingering, teasing, kissing etc. Take out the porn and the hard core fucking and the fisting/bondage/denial stuff - those are kinks that all of us can agree or disagree on, but the anal sex itself. 10 of us could give detailed accounts of our hottest anal fantasy, and I bet no 2 would be alike. Stop thinking of it like this bad gross painful thing to endure. Approach it with an open mind - if he's trying to convince you to do anal on his terms and you don't want to, don't. If you're willing to give it a shot on YOUR terms, make the offer and have a fun night.

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Re: Can you convince me that anal sex is not objectively unhealthy, humiliating and degrading?

Post by Canassman » Thu Sep 24, 2020 6:19 pm

Elyeria wrote:
Thu Sep 24, 2020 3:26 pm
I know I'm late to the party here, but nothing is inherently humiliating or degrading unless you let it be. If a man wants to do this with you because he wants to degrade you and that's what you don't like, he's not the right one for you. Anal and Vaginal sex have a lot in common, why is one degrading and humiliating and the other's not? Sex is supposed to be fun. I would never tell anyone to have sex in a way they don't want just because someone else does - that's not ok. Just think about what it would look like to be ok to you and start a conversation.

Kiss, make out, snuggle, then instead of tender loving vaginal, hand him some lube and try having some tender loving anal sex. If it's the first time
for both of you, invest in a pretty little plug to play with as part of the foreplay. Treat it EXACTLY like you would vaginal sex... fingering, teasing, kissing etc. Take out the porn and the hard core fucking and the fisting/bondage/denial stuff - those are kinks that all of us can agree or disagree on, but the anal sex itself. 10 of us could give detailed accounts of our hottest anal fantasy, and I bet no 2 would be alike. Stop thinking of it like this bad gross painful thing to endure. Approach it with an open mind - if he's trying to convince you to do anal on his terms and you don't want to, don't. If you're willing to give it a shot on YOUR terms, make the offer and have a fun night.

I 100% agree with all of the above. My wife and I have been AO for several years and it’s never degrading or humiliating. We tend to vary between sexy/romantic and hard and hot... but never degrading.

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Post by barbX » Fri Sep 25, 2020 1:53 am

absolutely agree with the above. if sex is degrading, it's probably not because it's anal, but because of how you treat each other. sex can be degrading, yes, some may even like that, but vaginal or oral sex can be that too. actually my only degrading experience was during oral. never had that during anal sex.

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Re: Can you convince me that anal sex is not objectively unhealthy, humiliating and degrading?

Post by Colt1911 » Wed Nov 11, 2020 10:55 am

If you’ve read this forum, you understand there are MANY intelligent and reasonable people who LOVE anal sex. Some advice... if you are a male who wants anal with a female who’s never had anal sex, take it slow and spend much time teasing her asshole with tongue, fingers, and toys. Gradually insert more fingers, but continue to tease by only partially inserting fingers or toys. I do this with my wife (who loves anal sex) and eventually she will thrust against my fingers or toy sucking it all the way In her ass. I love penetrating her with my cock, but to be honest, the teasing is as much fun for me as it is for her. My only regret is that we didn’t focus much more on penetrative anal sex when we were much younger. I’m quite girthy and my wife swore “that thing will never fit in my ass”. Now, she can suck it in balls deep. Pleasure takes many forms, so anal may not be right for you. But if you never try, you’ll never know! Everyone on this forum will tell you it is healthy, respectful, and far from degrading. Wishing you many trembling and squirting anal orgasms!

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