Anal sex and cock ring

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canadianbuttluvr
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Anal sex and cock ring

Post by canadianbuttluvr » Fri Nov 05, 2021 7:06 am

My wife and I regularly enjoy anal. But we have a problem. My wife isn’t (presently) open to the idea of a butt plug and while sometimes I will open her up slightly with a finger, i am having to open her up slowly with my cock. Problem is I am 43 and so my cock needs stimulation to stay hard and once I am in her deep enough all is well, but because of the slow progress I lose my erection. So what happens is a cycle; I enter her a little bit which opens her up, I get soft, pull out and stroke hard again and repeat - usually takes 3-4 of these cycles until she is opened up enough that my cock is able to stay hard because of the stimulation being in her deep enough.

But because of the cycle, there is always a low point in our time together cause my wife gets really horny (as do I) but instead of just being able to then transition to anal to keep the good time going, we go through a lull while we work this cycle.

If my wife were open to a butt plug then we could be fooling around and getting horny and immediately go to anal without missing a beat. But since this isn’t the case, I am wondering if a cock ring would help, that way when it comes time to enter her ass, we can go slow but me keep an erection. Conceivably once I am in I can pull out to quickly remove it.

Anyone have any advice? Also, you can either wear a cock ring and the very base of the testicles or at the base of the shaft. The base of the shaft seems to me to be preferable as it would be much quicker to remove when we are ready for anal but I’m not sure if this makes it less effective.

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Re: Anal sex and cock ring

Post by Canassman » Fri Nov 05, 2021 3:55 pm

One other option to maintaining an erection is cialis. Ended a similar problem for us completely.

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Re: Anal sex and cock ring

Post by Colt1911 » Tue Nov 09, 2021 8:40 am

A cock ring is a good way to maintain an erection. I’m 65, so I take viagra AND use a cock ring half the time. I wear a ring on my shaft only. Not around my cock and balls. I use stainless steel rings, so you need to dial the diameter in carefully. Too loose and it does little. To tight and your cock will turn blue.

I’d offer alternative advice if you and your wife are up to it. Half of the fun of our anal only sex life is anal play. If you spend enough time with fingers and small toys, her sphincter will relax and allow more fingers and larger toys in her ass. We actually use a large stainless plug as an anal toy as she loves the stretch when I slowly pull it out and put it back in her ass. She always squirts during this anal play. Why not try (slowly) to take anal play to the next level. After anal play, my cock easily slides into her ass. Anal play is awesome for both participants. Let me know how it works.

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Re: Anal sex and cock ring

Post by canadianbuttluvr » Tue Nov 09, 2021 2:03 pm

My wife is open to anal play, but only very limited. I think as she gets more comfortable with anal, she will be more open to it. Even when we talked about a butt plug, she said that right now she didn’t want to but that she might be open to it in the future. I think she doesn’t see a butt plug as “hot”, so that’s a factor.

I’ve used a finger from time to time, just depends-each situation is different. My wife prefers to have me enter her without any prep and I’ve come (slowly) to appreciate entering her and taking the time to get into her, rather than just wishing I could plunder her balls deep in one go.

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Re: Anal sex and cock ring

Post by AnalJay » Wed Nov 10, 2021 2:16 am

Feeling her relax and her ass slowly swallow you with no prep is great; but my wife didn't used to be into anal play before hand. One day, when I went to lick her butt, and as usual she recoiled; I had a change of manner. I gently told her that this was what was going to happen and that I was going to take my time about it. and I did take my time, a long time. Initially she lay there, in obedience if you like, tolerating it. After a while she gave up and relaxed. Then she realized that it was actually very nice and from that day on anal fore play was on the table and she liked it so much that she started to reciprocate. She said that now she knows how good it feels she wants to make me feel that way too. So fingers, tongues, whatever are all incorporated and we crossed a mile stone last week - she got her whole hand inside me up to her wrist. I think, well for us at least, it is finding a way of getting over some kind of self consciousness or embarrassment. We have been together for many years and it is great that we are still exploring our sex life together. On one hand one could think, I wish we had done that years ago, but then again, why unwrap all your presents at once. What if you buy a cock ring and at the same time a small butt plug. Gently suggest that you are going to try a cock ring and maybe she could try the butt plug so you can both take a new step. But before you do, decide what you will do if she says no when you present it to her, or accidently leave it on the bed for her to find hahaha...You don't want it to end in a huff or a row - unless that's just the way you roll. :D

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