Seeing to much shame over AO and other kinks

[NoVagAnal]

I keep seeing posts about people saying they felt weird about their desires and that this place has helped them connect and feel better about themselves. And that is great. But what I don't like is seeing so many people feel so terrible or strange about the desires and kinks they have. It really shouldn't be this way, and this is the result of a society that demonizes anything outside the sexual "norm". As long as what is being done is between consenting adults it's okay what is happening, and it's no body else's business.

We all have kinks, we all have desires of different varying degrees and types. So long as what you desire is done with another consenting adult, than you have nothing be ashamed of. Sexual compatibility is very important, but most people can't talk about it during their entire relationship, let alone during that crucial time where you are trying to evaluate the relationship.

[hdean667]

These are remnants left over from old world "morality" that stems largely from old religiosity. These same people rail against homosexuals and trans persons. Oddly enough, those who are loudest seem to be the ones most likely to be guilty of things they accuse.

As an atheist I am largely immune to those claims of immorality, and find them heinous. Perhaps if we stopp providing religious leaders with the power to which they have laid claim we would free ourselves of such guilt as is felt by so many. If we begin, as a whole, to base our morality on well-being instead of ages old goat-herder proclamations we will stop the nonsese of morality by proclimation.

[Backdoorlover]

Never felt shame but I did feel weird about some stuff I fantasized about. Like I remember the first time I saw ass to mouth in porn, I was disguested. But slowly I began to fantasize about it and after a while it became my biggest fantasy to experience real ass to mouth sex.

Even when I adressed the issue to my girlfriend, I was very nervous that she would think I was a pervert.

Little did I know

[Colt1911]

@NoVagAnal completely agree. Two words cover the only requirements… consenting adults.

Times change and greater access to information is causing people to share experiences encouraging others to give anal a try. I wish I knew then what I know now.

I’d encourage women to get off oral birth control (it kills libido) and have anal sex instead.

Anyone who condemns what consenting adults do in the bedroom probably doesn’t enjoy sex in the first place.

[hasani2222]

I had a similar story @Backdoorlover ! When I first accessed porn as a pre-teen I remember watching tube site videos of two men fucking a woman and seeing her get assfucked was so interesting. Not even in a sexual way, just a logical "oh I guess that's a hole you can put your cock into...let me write that down" kind of way. haha

They took their hard cocks and jammed it up her ass. I thought, hm, wonder what she's getting out it, they are pounding her deep and her pussy is empty!..."I guess that's how you have sex?" I was definitely impressionable at that age. But I also knew subconsciously the aesthetic of a cock engulfed by a round asshole seemed more appropriate that floppy skin folds. (My young mind becoming perverted. haha)

Well, at this age I would rub my penis against my thigh and have a dry orgasm. It wasn't until I jerked my cock up and down with spit in the bathroom one day when I suddenly squirted so much cum everywhere. I was probably 12 or 13. It was like a geyser spraying white ropes into the air. I was fascinated and excited because I saw guys in porn cumming, but didn't know when I would be able to do that...maybe when I'm an "adult"? That's where my oral desires grew...to have girls suck my cock and lick my cock clean of cum, to taste and savor it. I wanted cumsluts who would consume my cum and not have it go to waste. Blowjobs are still my favorite today.

Now at this point I was interested in anal too, but only sometimes. I didn't have an inclination to fuck as much as get my hard cock sucked with lots of tongue. When I first came across ass to mouth a few times, I remember being grossed out. "That's nasty. Can't believe she's doing that." But as my interest in having her taste my cum off my cock grew, it was a like a switch turned on one day. What if she tastes her ass on my cock? She can lick all those juices clean and then taste my cum after. Since then it's been a lifelong development on increasing excitement for ass to mouth. It's my primary motivate for engaging in some nice assfucking. I'm not ashamed thanks to people who share honestly on a forum like this.

[Ozzy]

I think it's a very natural process for some of us. First you feel very ashamed, then you fight it, finally you start to accept it, and finally, you become proud of it. But it's not overnight. This could take years. You can't skip stages. This happens and will continue happening as long as there are people in the world.

[Rimmer]

I am a believer, hopefully not religious, and I can only imagine that, I have said this before, the very first time Adam gave Eve a back rub, maybe with some coconut oil, he would have seen her ass hole, as he squidged her cheeks, and thought, Hmmm, I wonder if I can fit my cock in there? There was no sin in Eden, so it would have been fine - unless Eve gave him a slap.
But, and I've also said this before, just the other day in fact, all the feelings and emotion, even guilt, shame, worry, joy and pride; I wouldn't swap that for the world. Discovering your sexuality or kinkiness is a journey. It is a shame though that sometimes the situation gets out of control and someone feels they have to hurt them self or others feel they need to lay a hand on someone. But , for me, any shame, guilt or confusion I had while I figured out why I preferred ass holes added to the eroticism. Why would I want to part someone's cheeks and stick my tongue in their ass hole? But I do - Yay!