Lack of awareness

[ChrisW]

I've been thinking a lot recently about this community and how it's now been active for many years. Of course, people have been anal only forever but it's only since the last decade that we've learned how many others dream of the same thing. However, it's like what could have been the start of a huge shift in sexual attitudes just stalled. Outside of a few mentions, there hasn't been the impact that I would have expected.

Partly, as I said on the blog, I think that the community has been buried under porn in the search rankings. Although porn hasn't definitely changed and become a little more anal-centric, it's almost like they've co-opted the movement purely in the pursuit of profit. That isn't what people in the lifestyle are about. We want others to find out about this amazing change they can make to their lives and enjoy it.

So other than porn, why is there still so little awareness? With all the thousands of testimonials and our own experiences anal only is obviously a positive thing, for the many reasons we all know about. Do some elements like double-anal and clit-denial put people off? I know these are the more extreme fringe of the lifestyle and not practised by everyone, but does it come across to outsiders as a fetish? Is it that that stops people from seeing anal only as natural, healthy and normal?

What do you think?

[Backdoorlover]

It’s mostly about the fear of poop I think.

[ChrisW]

It’s mostly about the fear of poop I think.

I missed that one! Thanks!

[FarmerDan]

I think you guys have it back to front (so to speak!) - references to anal are common in forums and magazines these days so I think there is less need for a specialist site like this one.
Statistics are hard to come by but recently we've learned that usage of both oral contraception and contraceptive devices is falling. I wonder what could be taking their place? < wink >

[Backdoorlover]

I wonder what could be taking their place? < wink >

Don’t forget sex is slowly loosing it’s worth amongst young people. Having a vivid sexlife isn’t even important to them anymore.

[semi-normal]

Good question as to why so little awareness. Perhaps we will never know...
In my case it is because I'm an ignoramus. As a straight male I always loved a beautiful ass and watched them whenever in view; I never knew I could love it, until I was 52. It has changed my life.

[ChrisW]

@Backdoorlover I thought sex was one of the basic human needs like food and shelter. I can't imagine it having no worth to some people. And anal sex is one of the joys of being alive.

[ChrisW]

@semi-normal What changed for you at 52? Better late than never, but something must have happened?

[semi-normal]

@semi-normal What changed for you at 52? Better late than never, but something must have happened?

Something happened alright. This woman has a beautiful ass and one day during lovemaking it just dawned on me - why can't I love her ass too? I asked her if she'd like to try and she agreed; it lasted all of 30 seconds because it was so awesome. We have learned a lot since then; it has been 10 years now and anal is almost always included in our lovemaking. And we have never been closer.

Do I regret not knowing this earlier in life? Of course. But trying to make up for lost time and I have a willing lover. Life is good.

[Rimmer]

. Do some elements like double-anal and clit-denial put people off? I know these are the more extreme fringe of the lifestyle and not practised by everyone, but does it come across to outsiders as a fetish? Is it that that stops people from seeing anal only as natural, healthy and normal?

What do you think?

We became the sort of opposite to this, and I know when I mention it no one is interested because this is an AO forum and pussy denial is maybe more common than our take on an anal-centric lifestyle, but because of AO we got into vaginal fisting and stretching as her pussy was not being used for anything else, other than oral and dildos, and they got bigger and bigger as it didn't matter if she got slack and 'ruined' as her pussy didn't take cock (We eventually discovered that a ruined, loose pussy is in fact fantastic for piv, so after several years of AO we are back to being Anal Mostly with anal still our default form of sex and piv a kinky extra). BUT, if young people had anal sex for recreation, stretched and fisted their pussies for fun - instead of a loose vagina being a stigma, it became a badge of honour and a hobby, when it became time to start a family the birth may be easier, after all they now teach perineal stretching and sometimes gentle fisting to mothers to be, to help ease the birth.
As for double anal, she won't let anything girthier than my cock in there so I always feel big for her (she'll do depth play but not girth)
We were always told that if you want to put your cock in someone's ass then you must be secretly gay and I have heard of some women's response to a man wanting anal being, "what, are you gay or something?" but that argument falls down as soon as you ask if holding hands is makes you gay. Then there is the poop thing - though I just think that is fun and adds extra sensation - you don't get that in a pussy so embrace it as added stimulation that a pussy can not give rather than shy away from it, there's the pain thing - but that too can be embraced especially if you are into painal; painal would tie into the bad experience thing if done badly. The feeling slutty thing - but some embrace the slutty feeling, the Aids thing (we were also told that sperm mixed with poop AKA anal sex, was what actually created Aids and people engaging in anal sex were killing us all! But that did not quench my need to have anal sex as a teenager - It's almost as though it is an actual sexual orientation for those of us that have an inbuilt need for Anal sex. Then the religious argument, which is crazy, I am a believer, but I think Adam and Eve would have had Anal sex for sure - There was no sin in Eden, so no reason not to have Anal as it couldn't have been a sin; and many long years of life to populate the world in the mean time!
The reasonable and logical argument for Anal to be put forward as being the norm to kids and the next generation is unquestionable. But then I say to heck, let it be a taboo, it's more fun that way.
[if anyone is into or thinks they may like to try out pussy stretching, DM me (if this is OK with the Mods as I understand this is maybe off topic, but read to the end to see why it is not as of topic as it may seem) and I will give you a link to a stretching resource along the same vein as this forum. I get the pussy denial thing but it wasn't for us (denied actual cock for sure but not denied pleasure in other ways), and we did a bit of pussy punishment with as riding crop and the sort. A less travelled path (I have encountered the odd other couple like ourselves so far) is to stretch the pussy and 'ruin' it, so it is effectively useless for piv leaving Anal the remaining option (there are plenty of stretchers out there, but less that do it or started doing it from an anal-centric stand point. Of course 'ruin' it is just an erotic term, like 'destroying' an ass hole. And making it 'useless' again, that depends on your perspective and how you like a pussy to feel on your cock or how you like a cock to feel in your pussy - after all, it's a kink. My wife actually turned the Brat on this week and said, just use my ass for sex again from now on, my pussy is now just for fists and my giant dildo, your cock's not going in there again - So she has, once again, gone AO. Though I know this is just a game play, we can have long or short seasons of AO now, just for the fun of it. Anyway...just saying.