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My wife fears from Anal sex. How can I convince her to do anal sex regularly?

Welcome to the forum. We need some extra info first.

Did she already have anal and it went wrong, or is she afraid because she was told it hurts ?

Thanks for the reply. I tried once but it was incomplete. She didn’t get hurt. She is in fact afraid of it and think it might hurt her badly.
I tried to do anal foreplay by fingering but she is even afraid of it as well , saying nail is hurting me.
I licked her hole couple of times but still she remains uncomfortable. But I like anal the most. Please advise me any way of doing or any lubricant so that she should happily agree to do anal.

Her fear is what holds her back. This is not simple to get passed.

Buy coconut oil/butter in the grocarystore.
Use plenty of lube (coconut oil)
Buy a small buttplug or a trainer set
Start with fingers (clip your nails !)
And move up to the plug in her ass.
Then fuck her pussy while she has the plug in. Make her get used to something in her asshole while she’s enjoying sex.
If you go patiently, maybe she will let go of the fear and one day let you assfuck her after the pussyfuck.

Key here is understanding. Her fear is real and makes her asshole squeeze. That’s why she feels discomfort. Never force it on her cause that way you will just make her feelings of fear stronger. Anal sex should be gentle and loving. It’s the most beautiful gift to men, so tell her that. Make her want it too.

Thanks a lot for detailed reply. Other than cocunut oil, is there any dedicated lubricant for the anal beginner?

Waterbased Pjur was very good. But all synthetic lubes gave some sort of additive which CAN cause it to sting. Coconut oil never does that.

Ok, Thanks for guidance.
With coconut oil, Should I massage on anus or pour inside the anus to reduce friction?

Well, you don’t even need to put your finger in. Take some lube on your finger and rub it ON her asshole. Don’t go in. Rub around her hole and massage her spincter.

Just keep rubbing her asshole, and her clit a the same time. There is a good possibility at some point her asshole will open up and your finger slides in really smoothly, giving her extra pleasure.

Anal play doesn’t mean you need to stick something inside, you know. They it on your own asshole. Just rub it and experience how good it feels without even penetrating.

That seems practical. I never rub anus and clit together. I will try this .
Thanks a lot

Another thing which works very well is this:

Lick her pussy and clit untill she’s very horny and dripping wet. Finger her pussy. Every now and then move pussyjuice and saliva to her asshole. When she’s really horny, swith from fingering her pussy to rubbing her asshole and if everything feels nice you can even finger her asshole. Try to make her cum this way. It will make her feel comfy with anal stimulation.

And again: take your time !