How has anal only changed you?

[marcus]

How has AO affected your life? Has it lived up to your expectations? Are you just the same?

Since I'm asking the question I'll start off.

Since AO I've felt much more at ease / at peace with myself. I've been able to recognise my strange 'quirk' but most importantly my wife has over time come to accept it - which has meant a great deal: she accepts me as I am.

Obviously the sex is more pleasurable for me, but for my wife who used to have only sporadic or infrequent orgasms going AO has made a world of difference. This has brought our sex life on a more equal footing, somewhat ironically considering anal is often dismissed as 'just for the man'.

Lastly, we have been able to dispense with any form of birth control. This really is an enormous boon, although not an initial consideration.

[blizzak]

Since last time I posted we have AO last 5 times.... She stated I didn't realized how much better I would orgasim an she is mentally feeling OK with it now.... She has agreed to AO all November I think after that I got her hooked... One issue is there any sites that can explain to her that her ass won't fall out... Or remain gaping if we go AO seems to be her only setback

[assman99]

Since last time I posted we have AO last 5 times.... She stated I didn't realized how much better I would orgasim an she is mentally feeling OK with it now.... She has agreed to AO all November I think after that I got her hooked... One issue is there any sites that can explain to her that her ass won't fall out... Or remain gaping if we go AO seems to be her only setback

Congrats on that. I have also had the wife a few times question if her ass is going to get permanently loose or so forth from overuse (as I have more recently let her watch some of the porn I used to only watch privately which obviously features extreme gaping and sometimes prolapsing). I explained to her that these girls who do this are not having regular penetrative anal sex but are using larger and larger toys in a focused progression on increasing the potential size of their gapes. While I do find it erotic and attractive to look at, I only really desire to have my wife just loose enough to take me easily and frequently.

Additionally, the women doing those things on film put in a lot of warm-up before a shoot, so they have already expanded out beforehand. The sphincters are muscles, not just flesh like an earlobe being opened up with gradually larger piercings. If she checks her asshole at 3 in the afternoon during no level of arousal she will find it very tight and unready for a penis without some warmup.

There's a book called "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women" by retired porn actress Tristan Taormino, you might consider buying that for your wife to read and see for herself. Here's a quote:

In order to take something inside your rectum, you have to learn how to relax your sphincter muscles. The more you practice controlling these muscles, the more you are exercising and toning them (just like any other muscle). You are not stretching out or loosening the sphincter muscles, you are simply relaxing them to allow penetration.

[marcus]

Since last time I posted we have AO last 5 times.... She stated I didn't realized how much better I would orgasim an she is mentally feeling OK with it now.... She has agreed to AO all November I think after that I got her hooked... One issue is there any sites that can explain to her that her ass won't fall out... Or remain gaping if we go AO seems to be her only setback

I hope the two of you are doing well still. I was really asking about how going AO effects people emotionally or psychologically rather than physical changes.

On that subject, it is just urban myths about anal causing long term damage, so she can put her mind at ease.

Anyone else with stories about what changed after going AO? Was it all you expected? Did it improve your relationship?

[blizzak]

We are still doing well... An unfortunate incident occur to were we are staying with her father... So the last 2 months have been a bit difficult. But when we get the chance. She gets the plug out an its on.... Referring to how it changed us... She wouldn't get as excited like that now she has the "porn star" urge I guess you would say

[LuvMyWifesAss]

How has AO affected your life? Has it lived up to your expectations?

Somewhat ironically considering anal is often dismissed as 'just for the man'.

Lastly, we have been able to dispense with any form of birth control. This really is an enormous boon, although not an initial consideration.

Unlike your wife, mine almost always experienced an orgasm with vaginal sex. However, once we started including anal sex, they were much more intense. This caused her to desire sex more often. We went from having sex about 1 to 3 times a week to 3 to 5 times a week or more. At this point, we would usually start with vaginal sex, and move to anal. As time went by, the vaginal sex became shorter and shorter, and the anal sex began to dominate our lovemaking.

Once my wife admitted to preferring anal sex and suggested we just forego vaginal sex altogether, she seemed to enjoy it even more. It's now a rare day that we don't have anal sex. She usually gets off about 5 times a week, and then indulges me the other 2. I recently bought her a Mood Naughty butt plug for extended wear. She has enjoyed it immensely, wearing it for several hours before retiring to the bedroom for our evening fun. She wants to wear it out to dinner soon.

Like Blizzak's fiancé, my wife is getting her "porn star" on.


There is no question our sex lives and our relationship have improved as a result of the intimacy of anal sex.

[the2beans]

Like Blizzak's fiancé, my wife is getting her "porn star" on.


There is no question our sex lives and our relationship have improved as a result of the intimacy of anal sex.

You can put me down with these two. We've only had anal for over two months now and my wife's libido remains greatly elevated compared to before we started doing a lot of anal. She is much more sexually playful outside the bedroom and is making references to sex more regularly, indicating she seems to have it on her mind a lot more. She has a heightened confidence in herself. We've talked about it and she kind of gets off on thinking about how naughty/kinky we are compared to the average person around her.

I think her role is also quite empowering to her, contrary to the prevalent negative attitude that anal sex is a patently demeaning act towards women that only exerts male dominance over women. She has an ability that gives me the greatest pleasure I have known in my life and can melt me like butter with her words or suggestions and she loves to have fun with that. And when it comes down to it, she simply enjoys the sex more than she ever did, so that's pretty cool too.

[CrazyforAnalSex]

Since my girlfriend and I switched to anal only in November our relationship has gotten better and more intimate. Our love life is very special and we are both crazy about it. We've been together for a while so this keeps it exciting. She loves the orgasm from anal sex and has no problem taking a good pounding. She always dresses up too so it enhances that "porn set" surrounding even more. I feel like a European! Anyways, she likes to watch it so we do it a lot in front of our mirror. When we do it reverse cowgirl anal I pull her legs back while she holds her cheeks open to reveal her gape and it's beautiful. She's actually turned on by it because she knows it's driving me wild. We'll do a standing doggy anal by the mirror and she'll hold her ass open while I pound and pull out. She likes her gape that way. It's been a great 2+ months.

[marcus]

Since my girlfriend and I switched to anal only in November our relationship has gotten better and more intimate. Our love life is very special and we are both crazy about it. We've been together for a while so this keeps it exciting.

Switching to anal does often provide that 'spark' to either revive an unexciting sex life or else take a healthy one to the next level. I have a theory that elevated endorphins due to the increased physical stimulation (and nerves that aren't normally stimulated) have something to do with it. Endorphins are those natural opiates that are produced by the body that give that 'feel good' feeling and have additional properties such as increasing bonding between couples post sex.

[prettypink]

Made me rethink everything about what sex means, both to me and to my previous preconceptions about men. Before I always used to see guys as all essentially the same, with the same desires. If I had heard about AO years ago I would never have imagined the would be men that would only want anal with me, and that that could be normal (for them) or could be a basis for a meaningful sexual relationship. I like to think, I suppose, that I've grown or evolved in some sense.