Is your partner satisfied?

[Marquis]

So this site is mostly guys sharing their obsession for anal sex, going on and on about how natural and normal it is, how everyone should be into it and patting each other on the back for "bringing their women around" to AO and remarking how lucky we are when our partners "realize how much they enjoy anal".

REAL question for y'all: does it in the least bit concern you that your female partner might not be as satisfied with this arrangement as you imagine? If you found out your wife was having an affair because she wanted to experience being with a guy who was attracted to her pussy, would you be COMPLETELY AMAZED?

Maybe some of the women on the forum could speak up on this one, but it seems to me that the inclination to go towards AO is typically pretty one sided.

[marcus]

does it in the least bit concern you that your female partner might not be as satisfied with this arrangement as you imagine?

Yes it would concern me if I thought she wasn't satisfied with the arrangement. What more can I say?

If you found out your wife was having an affair because she wanted to experience being with a guy who was attracted to her pussy, would you be COMPLETELY AMAZED?

I I found out she was having an affair I would be completely amazed. Not only amazed but completely gutted. I guess (but can't say since it hasn't happened) that if it was because she wanted a guy attracted to her vagina, that would be an additional hurt, but nothing compared to the fact that she was having an affair in the first place. I don't know, but I would think affairs happen for multiple reasons rather than a single point of failure and are mainly due to failed communication.

[French Lover]

Well, the longest AO relation I had, my partner was clearly satisfied but it depends on the definition of "satisfaction".
She had pleasure, orgasms, and was truly happy with me.
Had she missed vaginal sex? Yes, a bit. She told me.

But when I'm in a relationship with a woman who does not do anal, I may be satisfied, have pleasure, orgasm, and be truly happy.
Did I miss anal sex? Quite a lot.

So I wonder, is "satisfaction" means "fullfill all desires" or just "have enough sexual pleasure to enjoy one's life" ?

[Robert]

Whats with all your concern all of a sudden? Aren't you the one who said they enjoy that it can hurt their partner? And so people are a bit obsessed with anal sex here? What do you expect at a site dedicated to AO? Where else do we have to go?

But since you asked I want my girlfriend to be as satisfied as I will be. Do you think women can't enjoy anal just as much?

[Marquis]

I guess it's just hard for me to see any woman fetishizing total vaginal avoidance the way guys on here do. I know lots of women who love anal and even LOTS of anal, but no vaginal at all... I have a hard time picturing it. I could be projecting.

[analsexonly]

There are women—including several who are members here—who do fetishize complete vaginal abandonment. It may not be an extremely common fetish/interest, but it certainly exists.

[CumInAssOnly]

I think you're asking a great question. Sex is about both partners being satisfied.

Speaking personally, my wife and I don't see AO as any sort of goal right now. My wife orgasms from vaginal sex combined with a (strong) vibrator. So we do that -- and for reasons I've explained elsewhere I wear a condom -- then we switch over to anal where I finish inside her. My aim is to make the anal as comfortable and fun as possible for her -- and tips on this are really what I get out of this site. Hopefully, maybe, she'll eventually learn to orgasm during anal sex. That would be awesome! But until then there's no way AO is a possibility for us. I want to be part of the pleasure she gets from sex.

Also I would say: Human sex is highly varied. We all project this exterior of normalcy so as to fit in and not freak out the neighbors. But behind closed doors people are really damned freaky. The swinging/cuckolding community is HUGE. The bdsm community is HUGE. That 50 Shades of Grey book (BDSM-lite) was literally the top-selling book for months on end. It is absolutely conceivable that quite a few women would find it exciting to practice vaginal denial for extended periods of time.

In our case my wife is a very strong submissive. She loves it when I take charge during sex. In the times when I plug her bottom and go straight for anal, I can see with my own eyes how her pussy drips. Having an orgasm is a different thing, and I want that to be part of her experience too.

[the2beans]

While my wife does't have the same intense desire to do anal sex that I do, she is definitely very satisfied by our sex life. It's possible for it to be more gratifying to one partner without it being considered 'one-sided'. For instance, despite the fact that my wife ALWAYS has a very intense orgasm when we do anal sex. She gets off quicker and easier and with more force when we have anal sex. So, yeah she's very satisfied and it is very important to me that this is the case because I have a hard time enjoying ANY form of sex if my partner isn't enjoying it with me.

[amorous945]

So this site is mostly guys sharing their obsession for anal sex, going on and on about how natural and normal it is, how everyone should be into it and patting each other on the back for "bringing their women around" to AO and remarking how lucky we are when our partners "realize how much they enjoy anal".

Your question is based on several false premises, and over generalizations, so it is very difficult for me to lend much substance to. The words "natural and normal" are relative terms, and I have found that those who use such terms (without some give and take), are at best inconsistent, and at worse, hypocrites. I have never once that I can remember ever said that "everyone" should be into anal sex but, if my partner ends up enjoying it even half as much as I do, then, yes, I would think that the word "lucky" would be applicable, as it would also be in any other area of life where two or more people share something in common.

Since I am NOT personally into or advocate any of the following: AO requirement in a relationship, AO orgasms, clitoral abandonment for pleasure, orgasm denial, finding pleasure in an "empty vagina," disregarding or feelings of repulsion by female genitalia, male domination, pain or other masochistic behaviors, I do not consider myself "obsessed" with anal sex and, given what I have stated above, yes, I would be shocked if my partner wasn't pleased with our current situation, as I am always more than happy and willing to please my partner in other ways, even if it doesn't include anal. I do enjoy vaginal sex, and giving and receiving oral sex, however, anal sex if my personal favorite and passion. Two people are not always going to share the same level of enjoyment in every sexual act, but hopefully there will be times when they come into harmony, or at least enjoy others aspects of their sexual experience mutually. As long as I am not hurting or forcing my partner, I CAN and DO enjoy anal sex, even it my partner doesn't share the same enthusiasm or derive as much pleasure from it as I do. I am perfectly willing to make the same sacrifices for her enjoyment.

Since I am at least open to the of idea of "poly" or open relationships, hopefully my wife would never have to have an affair.

Given that this site is devoted to those who have a passion for, preference for, or even practice anal sex exclusively, there's probably going to be some discussion on, um,.........,anal sex! That doesn't make anyone "obsessed" anymore than a blog or forum about planting tomatoes qualifies one as being obsessed with tomatoes.

Generally speaking, women are more focused on the "whole aspect" of a sexual experience more than they are on one specific sexual act or body part. Personally and, again, generally speaking, I think that women are more complex when it comes to sexuality and how they express it. Just take a look at the porn industry. It is mainly for men and created by men. With some exceptions, very few women enjoy the kind of porn that just focuses on closeups of a penis thrusting in and out of one body orifice or another. For the most part, this type pornography is a projection of male fantasy, not female. So, given that there's even some hint of truth in what I have just said, it is no surprise to me that there are few women who join or comment here and, yes, this site will probably always be "mainly" men, as you said, expressing their passion or maybe even to some degree, obsession with anal sex; again, no surprise.

[Robert]

Amorous I agree with everything you said. I also don't remember anyone ever saying everyone should be into anal sex. I only think most people *would* enjoy if they gave it a chance.