titisuru wrote:Three distinct experiences:
1. very tight, absolutely no gape potential, but oh boy what a sweet ride... I am tempted to say tightness of the ass and specifically in combination of full meaty ass cheeks rolling across the shaft of the penis is absolute heaven.
2. very high gape potential, but as a downside, indeed not as tight anymore... for me it really came down to the visual stimulation that still made it fairly pleasurable. But without the tightness, and especially when wearing a condom it was not as good as option 1.
3. again, very high gape potential. However this woman had mastered the art of squeezing and grinding in way that dwarfed option 1 with respect of intense tactile pleasure. Adding the visual pleasure just blew my mind.
Well, I would like to think my wife falls into the third category. She certainly has mastered control of her anus and rectal valves during anal sex, providing a mind blowing orgasmic experience for both of us. I'm certain she has high gape potential based on the folds of her anus and her ability to take my cock or four fingers to the knuckles in her ass without issue. As well, we've been having regular anal sex for over 25 years now, 10 of that anal only. That said, my wife cannot seem to achieve a gape. We've even been working on it for the last month or so. Last night she wore a plug for about and hour before bedtime. When I removed the plug, she snapped shut like a bear trap and can't seem to relax to achieve a gape. I think there is some sort of mental block there. We just can't figure out why she's having such an issue with this.
I would love to be able to look into her beautiful gaping hole and see my cum deep within, or to be able to ejaculate into her gaped hole as she held it open for me. Hopefully, someday soon, she will be able to relax enough to achieve a decent gape.
My experience with the wife over the years is that when we first started anal, she had no real gape and would close up right away when I pulled out. Over time, we starting doing anal very regularly and she became a pro at relaxing and loosening up. And then came along her beautiful gape. Not coincidentally, that's when she starting asking for anal regularly and then exclusively. Now, anal entry takes very little time - she's still tight initially (and I LOVE that initial tight grip) but within a minute, she is loose and smooth and perfect for deep anal penetration.
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Angie06 wrote:I love gaping and stretching and having a gape as a result of intense stimulation doesn't mean you're permanently loose. I tighten up pretty quickly even after I've had a good stretching . Plus, there's other factors like how experienced you are with anal and controlling your anus and just how your ass is to begin with.
Absolutely, anal "stretching" is more about muscle relaxation and control, and since the natural state of the anus is to be tight, it returns to that state pretty quickly after a fucking or a stretching. Unless you damage it, it just isn't going to be loose most of the time except for a short period after sex or play. So a gape shows both evidence of recent use, which is hot, and skill/muscle control ability.
analsexonly wrote:Absolutely, anal "stretching" is more about muscle relaxation and control, and since the natural state of the anus is to be tight, it returns to that state pretty quickly after a fucking or a stretching. Unless you damage it, it just isn't going to be loose most of the time except for a short period after sex or play. So a gape shows both evidence of recent use, which is hot, and skill/muscle control ability.
Yes! Anuses and vaginas are VERY elastic...they have to be able to open and close. The muscles around an anus, called the external sphincter ani, are sort of voluntary and involuntary muscles. They're meant to naturally relax and open up on their own but can be voluntarily tightened along with your pelvic floor muscles to close a gape. So if you clench your butthole you're actually voluntarily clenching these muscles around your anus. But there's no way to voluntarily relax them to give yourself a gape. They only relax from some sort of stimulation (like anal sex) Porn stars demonstrate it by tightening those muscles to close their gapes and relaxing again to open it up (some people call it "winking") But basically your anus goes back to normal very quickly because those muscles have a memory of how they should naturally be. All that effects elasticity in otherwise healthy people is scarring. So if you don't damage it, you're fine