What to think of an anal gape?

[A-man]

To most, I think “anal gaping” is associated with destructive and aggressive male behaviour. I can understand that, but I’ve always taken it as a sign of extreme pleasure. In my personal life, I’ve often taken it as a sign that my partner is so relaxed, so comfortable and so pleasured that they’ve temporarily lost all inhibition.

Needless to say, I love anal gaping and the suspense it creates. It’s a huge turn on for me.

I’ll answer the question about a gf having a large natural gape. I’ve noticed that some women have large “rest gapes” or “natural gapes” with no prior anal experience. It seems like it’s inherited somehow.

I’ll just tell a brief story about a woman I dated (sort of) with a large natural gape.

Maria was a gorgeous “trash/dirty-talking” Greek woman I met a few years ago through some friends. We hit it off almost instantly. She made her “crush” on me known and would often try to get me going by sitting on my lap or talking raunchy, etc.

Fast forward. We started hanging out. Eventually, I agreed to help her get off with oral if she helped get me off with anal. After a few jokes, she admitted she didn’t do much anal, so I’d have to guide her and tell her to do. Nevertheless, she was “in”.

The first time, we started with oral. She guided me through it, I got her off a couple of times and it was surprisingly fun. We took a break, but eventually I had her turn around, slide down her jeans, and bend over. She had a beautiful white ass, but, yes, I did notice how large her asshole was; it didn’t look overly used or anything - just really “big”.

After some instruction and adjustment (but no anal stretching), I was able to press down on her cheeks and essentially make her ass reflexively open up and “yawn”. Of course, I’ve always known that some people could do this, but her gape was absolutely huge. She was totally oblivious. I told her that I was kind of blown away by it. We both had a good laugh.

Anyway, eventually I taught her how to do it on her own so that, after oral, she could quickly turn around, spread and gape for me to cum. I never came in her ass - only on her ass (cheek) or in a towel or something. She never did enemas, so there were a lot of “poop jokes”. She was great, great fun.

[analsexonly]

In porn, gapes are portrayed as a destructive thing, the result of a man stretching open a woman forcefully and aggressively. In reality, they're a sign of good anal muscle control and relaxation. I find them very appealing because of the latter, not the former.

[nopussy]

I'm a guy. I have absolutely no interest in seeing her gape.

[myttia]

I think it's really hot but it might be because of how excited my boy gets when I do And Ive trained myself now to relax (and not 'push out' as they do in porn movies - that doesnt work!) when im on all fours with my shoulders on the bed (so my ass is highest and my insides are falling away from my ass), I guess, and I can relax sufficiently to open without any hands or stimulation or penetration before hand. Not very much, but enough to open up (and air goes in hehe, the sound is really hot - a wet opening and woosh of a little bit of air) - my boy nearly blows his load when I do this. He says it makes me look like my body is ready to give itself totally to him so he can be as deep in me as possible.. proof he's not 'forcing' me or anything else hehe that I truly want him, with no way to just be 'pretending'

I wish I could gape enough so he wouldn't "touch the sides" as it were, but he's too large (thank god? hehe what fun would not touching be!)

[Robert]

I've noticed recently that after I've licked my girlfriends anus (we have some long sessions of that) that it opens up just a little. Not exactly a gape (not even quite as big as the end of my little finger) but neither is it in the usual tight state you'd normally see it in. I'd be curious to see more, but even seeing her react in this small way and knowing how much she's getting off on it is a huge turn on.

[A-man]

I think it's really hot but it might be because of how excited my boy gets when I do And Ive trained myself now to relax (and not 'push out' as they do in porn movies - that doesnt work!) when im on all fours with my shoulders on the bed (so my ass is highest and my insides are falling away from my ass), I guess, and I can relax sufficiently to open without any hands or stimulation or penetration before hand. Not very much, but enough to open up (and air goes in hehe, the sound is really hot - a wet opening and woosh of a little bit of air) - my boy nearly blows his load when I do this. He says it makes me look like my body is ready to give itself totally to him so he can be as deep in me as possible.. proof he's not 'forcing' me or anything else hehe that I truly want him, with no way to just be 'pretending'

I wish I could gape enough so he wouldn't "touch the sides" as it were, but he's too large (thank god? hehe what fun would not touching be!)

You described the anal gape technique well! It's not about pushing out. It's about expanding your abdominal cavity (i.e., being on your knees and letting your insides relax toward the floor). Expanding your abdominal cavity causes your alimentary canal to suck in air and inflate. It sounds like you've mastered the technique!

[A-man]

Myttia, I think you get the psychology behind “gaping”. It’s all about shock, obscenity and raising sexual suspense during play. It’s one thing to, say, kneel and make and open hole with your mouth; it’s another to, say, bend over and make one with your anal cavity.

I’ve had a lot of my anal partners try it in the past. Most of them seemed to enjoy it with me, but I doubt they would have done it on their own inclination. I’m usually the catalyst who gets it going by explaining the obscenity and intensity of it.

I’ve met only a handful of women who’ve independently thought that “anal gaping is something I have to learn and start doing.” All of these women have been online. The best example is a woman I met on a kink-related forum a while back. Her story was pretty straightforward: she came across the concept of anal gaping from porn, spent a few years being privately fascinated by it, did some personal practice then joined a kink forum to talk about it and get some more ideas. Along the way, she met an older guy on the forum who suggested she come out and try it in a social setting with his “play group”. So that’s pretty much what happened: she made the plans, showed up, introduced herself, and spent some time getting her ass stretched and showing off the hole to people without judgement.

Interestingly, with her, it’s not about being part of the “kink scene” or hooking up with anyone. It’s about being the otherwise “normal girl” who, at any time, will slide down her pants, bend over, pull her plug out, and have you look as far down her back passage as possible as she holds still and aims it at you in heated suspense - almost like "oh my god, please, please look down my bowels." Shes a very strange and interesting woman.

[BackdoorDeliveryman3]

The gape is a turn on for me... But I do not expect it, I am more concerned for her anal and rectal health. The prolapsed rectum don't turn me on at all because I would be worried for them, they may need a surgery!!! I would be turned on when I can see my cum swimming around in her rectum through her gape

[analgeil]

I like gapes. But for me it's less about seeing a big, bottomless hole than the girls amazing ability to relax or contract her sphincter at her own will. I guess it takes a lot of practice and body control. But for an anal loving man this can be a huge turn on.

I had no anal sex with my last girlfriend. But sometimes her anus was so relaxed, that it formed a small, inviting hole I could easily slip my finger into. So hot. It also gave me the feeling that her asshole really wanted to join in on our sex life. Unfortunately she was not ready to try before we broke up.

[deviant87]

Hey all, new to forum, but I've lived the lifestyle for years and have adopted the butt plug lifestyle 24/7.

Personally, I think there's nothing sexier than a girl with a gaping arse. Having marvelled at a truly astonishing female gape first hand and having explored it in every way possible, including with my tongue for an hours, I can truly say they the sexiest sight on Earth. In part, they what make the AO lifestyle so awesome.

I'd love to hear what some women think of their own gape? Thanks.