Improving The Image Of Anal

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Re: Improving The Image Of Anal

Post by amorous945 » Sat Aug 09, 2014 10:41 am

The word "fetish" is mis-used most of the time. On the basis of what having a "fetish" truly means, I don't agree that anal sex (in and of itself) automatically falls into this category.

Fetish: an object or bodily part whose presence is "psychologically necessary" for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent
that it may interfere with complete sexual expression.

We all have areas of the body that we may be more fixated on than others, and parts of the body that turn us on more than others. Like for instance, how often do you hear men say, "I'm a breast man, or I'm an ass man?" However, simply being fixated or having a preference does not automatically mean that someone has a fetish. When that object or fixation becomes necessary to the exclusion of all else for sexual satisfaction, then you can say that that person has a fetish. Masters and Johnson covered this well in their research.

That's not to say that there aren't some people here who do have an anal fetish. Personally, even though I prefer anal sex above all other sexual acts, and will readily admit to being "fixated" on that part of a woman's anatomy more than other parts, I do also genuinely love everything about a woman's body and am also turned on by the whole package. I can and do enjoy oral sex and vaginal sex, (although they rarely happen these days), as well as any other thing that partners can do for mutual pleasure sharing and bonding.

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Re: Improving The Image Of Anal

Post by BBells » Mon Aug 11, 2014 2:06 am

KeepItReal wrote:I agree, it's almost as if men are their own worst enemy!
Although I have to admit, Anal is so exciting that you can't blame a guy for getting carried away the first time, mores the pity I suppose!



That is not really a good excuse.
KeepItReal wrote:This surprises me as, in my opinion anyway, most porn makes Anal look very unsexy and would actually turn women off!
Which blogs were you reading and what aspect of Anal turned you on?

Like I said I don't watch porn. Maybe the gifs just pick out the most appealing part but almost every blog I follow on tumblr is run by a girl and often feature lots of anal. I am not sure if I can really explain, it just looks appealing.
KeepItReal wrote:I think Anal will eventually go the way of Oral - blowjobs were originally very dirty and taboo, but today are pretty much a standard practice!



I don't really see it happening but I do think more girls will be willing to try anal. Back to my first point, they may like it, they may be scared off, or they may hate it, but I do believe more girls will be willing to try.

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Re: Improving The Image Of Anal

Post by analsexonly » Mon Aug 11, 2014 1:23 pm

I do think anal will become as commonplace as vaginal for many people in the future—something that is done occasionally or even fairly regularly but not replacing vaginal for most—simply because there is more education about how to do it safely and comfortably, and more people are willing to try it, so more people are discovering that they love it. Not everyone will love it, or even like it, of course—just as with anything else. But I do see it following the same progression as oral sex has with its mainstream acceptance and expectation (by both partners) within most real world relationships—it'll just be a bit further down the road before that happens, even though it's well on its way for some already.

Regarding the appeal of the visuals of anal, for me it's multifold: it's seeing the "unexpected", with a penis penetrating something that is commonly seen as a very tight, one way passage; it's the actual mechanics with the anus stretching open and pulling back out slightly as the penis does its outstroke, and the slight gape and puffiness that follows to demonstrate that it was just fucked; and finally, the contrast between an empty vagina and a filled anus.

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Re: Improving The Image Of Anal

Post by Robert » Tue Aug 12, 2014 4:21 pm

analsexonly wrote: Regarding the appeal of the visuals of anal, for me it's multifold: it's seeing the "unexpected", with a penis penetrating something that is commonly seen as a very tight, one way passage; it's the actual mechanics with the anus stretching open and pulling back out slightly as the penis does its outstroke, and the slight gape and puffiness that follows to demonstrate that it was just fucked; and finally, the contrast between an empty vagina and a filled anus.

I'd agree with some of that for sure. But part of the appeal for me is that to my eyes it looks exactly as it should do. Whilst penis in the vagina looks invasive in the way it displaces all the labia and folds, in the anus its like its a nice smoother, and receptive penetration. Two become one flawlessly in like the ultimate connection. And seeing the vagina empty and unwanted by both partners in preference to the anus is a real visual stimulant as well as a statement.

To that extent I don't think much needs to be done to improve the image. I think it has appeal for both sexes and surveys show how most people now are at least trying anal. There will always be those few who don't see the appeal but you can't do anything for them. Their loss I reckon.

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