the general fear women have of anal

[blizzak]

Last night I over heard my neighbours talking about anal. They are mid 20s 3 girls talking. They kept saying how uncomfortable it is an how it feels like they are going to explode during the session. One of the guys chipped in "its not that bad cmon" an the one girl replied "have you had a cock in your ass?" The point of this is there needs to be more education and or work shops done to explain how to do it properly and how to make it enjoyable. Even my wife enjoys it. But has the mental issue of its wrong or its pleasing me even though she assgasims from it. Its a deep situation and this is how we have to nip it in the butt

[analsexonly]

In their case it sounds as though they're speaking from experience rather than having an uninformed opinion based on what other people have said. A couple things regarding that:

First, not everyone enjoys anal. I do think nearly everyone can experience painless anal through gradual stretching, but that doesn't guarantee they will find it to be a comfortable feeling or will get any pleasure from it. Just as not all women get pleasure from vaginal sex, it is plausible that not every woman will get pleasure from anal. Around here we tend to celebrate women who embrace anal because of a dislike or discomfort from vaginal, while suggesting that women who find anal uncomfortable just need to keep trying—something most other people are telling the women who hate vaginal. Perhaps we need to be more accepting of what people like—it's good to try new things, and good to try anal multiple times because of the need to gradually introduce yourself to it, but it's also good to simply accept those who say they find it uncomfortable unless they themselves want to try exploring it further. People are different in lots of different ways and the size and positioning of clitoral tissue and the g-spot and other erogenous zones is going to have a big effect on whether vaginal or anal feels the best for a woman.

Second, a huge problem is women trying it without first reading up on it to learn how to properly introduce themselves to anal pleasure, or doing so with a partner who has failed to do the same. Most then have a bad experience and think pain and discomfort is all there is to be gotten from anal. Some will continue to do it to please their partner, which is even worse than not doing it at all when they could likely be getting a very pleasurable experience from it instead if they did it properly.

I do definitely agree that the general image of anal sex as something potentially very pleasurable for women should be spread further, through trustworthy channels, as well as guides on how to safely and comfortably try it. This has been happening somewhat lately—there have been articles written about the pleasures of anal sex and how to get start trying them, but they never quite hit the mainstream.

[BBells]

I posted on another similar thread about why women are hesitant or dislike anal and two of my major point were ignored by all except one user. I am glad to read Analsexonly's first point in his reply because it is very true. As much as guys in here keep wanting anal to be the new blowjob, a lot of girls just won't like it an that's OK. Just like its OK that you guys prefer anal. People need to respect each other and what they are or are not comfortable with.

My second and probably most important point is experience. Most girls that I know who have tried anal sex hated it. The reason they hated it is because it was either painful or just a bad experience. Guys trying to force it in, guys pushing girls to do it when they are not ready or willing, and generally guys just ruining it for girls who are still learning. I was lucky but most of my friends don't want to experience that again. As much as you guys keep focusing on why girls aren't more open to anal, you ignore the part you play in them not wanting it.

Stuff like this makes me wish more girls posted here. When the average girls only experience with anal is pain/discomfort/ or worse, it's not surprising they aren't jumping at the chance to do it again.

[analsexonly]

Absolutely: guys not knowing what they're doing and trying to just go for anal sex with no preparation (your first time, you really shouldn't be having sex until you've been enjoying anal play with gradually larger penetration for at least a few weeks) is the number one cause of women being turned off from trying it again.

[KeepItReal]

I don't know - maybe I'm just an optimist, but I honestly believe all women can like, actually love Anal!

Everybody has their own tastes and preferences so there will always be people who don't enjoy certain things BUT I think women can learn to feel great pleasure from Anal if they have the right partner.

I'm sure there are some men out there who don't like blowjobs, however as a rule, "all" men do love them - and if they don't, it's usually due to a bad experience in the past - same with Anal for women.

Overall, the human body has many pleasure centres and the Anus is one of them - therefore the "potential" to enjoy Anal is definitely there with all women... they just need to be open minded and meet the right guy who can "convert" them!

[taylork]

You are so right about this keepitreal. Most girls can love anal as much as the guys do. A girls anus has about more nerves than just about anywhere else and its all connected up internally with the muscles of her anus going up around her vagina to her clit. But because its so super sensitive they can have a bad time and guys think they can just go in there in pound that ass. It took my girl a long time to get to that stage just like it takes practice from the porn actresses. Does anyone think they learned it in a day? Of course not and they wouldn't do it either if it hurt. But they aren't any different to any other girl so they are all capable. No experience is good if you start out afraid i thought that was common knowledge.