Other guys pretending?

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Re: Other guys pretending?

Post by Sir Butts-a-Lot » Fri Dec 29, 2017 12:33 am

AnalAnnaLisa wrote:when i was a teen, i felt ashamed about preferring anal. but after discovering it i was always up front with my boyfriends about liking it more and all of them were happy to have anal sex more often than vaginal. i don't know what they told their friends, but i never told mine that i did anal when we talked about sex. i always knew that if i was honest about anal, i would be labeled a slut

now that i'm in my 20s (and it's ten years later) i tell all my friends how much i love anal and a lot of them know i'm anal only. they definitely think i'm a slut, but now it's actually true.. :oops: and i love it!

What an anal goddess :) why for the love of butts can’t there be more women like you in this world? A lot of girls I meet (from tinder or online etc) either don’t want to try it -.- or do and like it, but then the sex fades off. Never mind girls like yourself that do ATM, which is incredible! That’ has sadly never been done to me...it’s on my wish list :cry: ...along with doing double anal to a girl, but that is a different story entirely :twisted:

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Re: Other guys pretending?

Post by *DH* » Tue Jan 09, 2018 3:55 am

With regard to the OP, I would argue that despite the popularity of anal porn, there's still a large number of guys who like it in theory/fantasy but not in practice. I know several who are intrigued by the idea of doing it (porn style) but when all is said and done, they still default to vaginal. I think this mindset is also linked to a general lack of belief that women can truly enjoy anal (unless they are *insert X label*).
Just my thoughts on this issue, since it's something I do wonder about given the number of AO women I've heard talk about difficulty finding men who are genuinely into anal.

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Re: Other guys pretending?

Post by kingsman » Sun Apr 29, 2018 11:16 am

People will say what they're expected to say, simple as that. How any man who has tried anal sex could come away from it saying he didn't like it confounds me. How can they not like it? What I think is going on is that most men would, given half the chance, jump at the chance, but since they don't want to admit they've been turned down or ashamed of their lack of experience instead say they don't like it anyway! :roll:

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Re: Other guys pretending?

Post by taylork » Tue May 01, 2018 5:33 pm

Its nice to see people still discussing this topic after all this time. I guess we'll never know for sure as those people won't be coming here so we only get the one side of the story.

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Re: Other guys pretending?

Post by analsexonly » Mon May 21, 2018 7:07 pm

Vaginal sex is easy. Anal takes some effort to get right, especially when you're first starting out, and could be seen as a more advanced form of sex. The average person doesn't necessarily know (unless they go out of their way to do some research or take their time, experiment, and persist through different experiences, in which case they're probably a bit above average) how to do it right.

Most men want their partner to enjoy sex as much as them and to show enthusiasm for what's happening. Anal with a woman who isn't enjoying it or isn't able to do it very long or is too tight can be a somewhat frustrating experience that turns off guys new to anal who don't know what's wrong or how to fix it, so they assume that it's always going to be a struggle like that and even if it feels good to them, they don't come back to it very much.

This is why it's best with a partner new to receiving anal to focus on their pleasure and enjoyment above all else when training/preparing for sex, because your own pleasure will be repaid in turn as she wants a lot of anal after learning how to do it and really enjoy it.

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Re: Other guys pretending?

Post by kingsman » Tue May 22, 2018 8:58 am

analsexonly wrote:
Mon May 21, 2018 7:07 pm
Vaginal sex is easy. Anal takes some effort to get right, especially when you're first starting out, and could be seen as a more advanced form of sex. The average person doesn't necessarily know (unless they go out of their way to do some research or take their time, experiment, and persist through different experiences, in which case they're probably a bit above average) how to do it right.

Most men want their partner to enjoy sex as much as them and to show enthusiasm for what's happening. Anal with a woman who isn't enjoying it or isn't able to do it very long or is too tight can be a somewhat frustrating experience that turns off guys new to anal who don't know what's wrong or how to fix it, so they assume that it's always going to be a struggle like that and even if it feels good to them, they don't come back to it very much.

This is why it's best with a partner new to receiving anal to focus on their pleasure and enjoyment above all else when training/preparing for sex, because your own pleasure will be repaid in turn as she wants a lot of anal after learning how to do it and really enjoy it.

So you're saying that the reason many guys say they prefer vaginal is because anal didn't go well? If so that is so short sighted of them. Anything worth a damn takes some learning, practice and experience. Could be its the generation we have now with zero patience or self motivation.

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Re: Other guys pretending?

Post by analsexonly » Tue May 22, 2018 9:05 am

kingsman wrote:
Tue May 22, 2018 8:58 am
So you're saying that the reason many guys say they prefer vaginal is because anal didn't go well? If so that is so short sighted of them. Anything worth a damn takes some learning, practice and experience. Could be its the generation we have now with zero patience or self motivation.

I completely agree, and it's probably not the only factor, but it is something I have encountered, especially in conversations with anal-loving and anal only women who have had a hard time finding partners who want the same, so often they meet men who are resistant to the idea, and it turns out that it's often because of their own past experiences coloring their idea of what anal is like with everyone, and when they try it with someone who's really enthusiastic about it and actually enjoys it and can easily have sex anally without a lot of preparation every time or a struggle to fit it in, they usually come around and realize it's actually amazing.

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