Other guys pretending?

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taylork
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Other guys pretending?

Post by taylork » Thu Oct 24, 2013 3:39 pm

I've been thinking over this last year since going AO with my GF about how other guys behave and about how so many say they don't like anal. This sort of ties in with the other topic about having a natural instinct for anal.
What i'm saying is that i always used to think it was me who was different, because so many other guys always talk about "pussy" like it is the best thing in the world. But i'm thinking maybe they are all like me after all and using that as a cover. Does that make sense?
Otherwise it doesn't add up because as i see it anal is just about the most popular kind of porn right now.
I think there are alot more guys who would prefer to be having anal out there than it looks. What does everyone else think?

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Re: Other guys pretending?

Post by assman99 » Fri Oct 25, 2013 3:31 pm

taylork wrote:I think there are alot more guys who would prefer to be having anal out there than it looks. What does everyone else think?

I think this is definitely true, but I think we're seeing it become more and more accepted and more guys shedding the old negative attitude (whether sincere or a false front). The huge rise of anal in the porn industry is obviously an indication that huge numbers of men are clicking/buying/watching this subject. It can certainly be argued that the growing popularity of anal in porn is itself a cause of said growth. I personally developed my fixation for anal before I had the means to access pornography, but I know there are plenty of guys making comments about how it has "grown on them" over the years through visual exposure.

I know when I was at the age where I talked about that kind of thing with my friends (i.e. late teens - early 20s), there were still many guys in my crowd who would swear they thought it was gross and for closet gay men, etc, but obviously many of them had to be in denial. On the flipside, I do believe there are many guys who are sincerely and honestly not turned on by the idea at all and never will be. Just like for women, it won't appeal to everyone.

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Re: Other guys pretending?

Post by marcus » Sun Oct 27, 2013 11:57 am

I agree that anal sex is becoming more accepted in the last 10 years or so. Is it a generational thing or are people just becoming more socially/sexually liberal.

As for the porn angle - I'm still not sure if porn is influencing behaviour or if it is the other way around. Or even a circle whereby both feed off of each other?

Like you taylork, I used to consider myself somewhat "out there" with my own specific sexual preferences. Now I'm no longer so sure about that. But how deep in the psyche of most males does this all eclipsing desire for anal run?

Whatever the case, I agree that for many men, "they doth protest too much". Part perhaps, is a fear of questioning their own sexuality, or more about how they are perceived by others.

I've waffled on a bit. The main point is that yes, many guys do pretend for whatever reason, and enough would prefer anal, I think, in numbers that make it statistically quite normal.

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Re: Other guys pretending?

Post by prettypink » Sun Oct 27, 2013 2:47 pm

Well I can tell you for a fact that nearly all the guys I've been with have been very interested in my ass. It is one of life's little certainties :lol:

Although I admit that some have initially been uncomfortable with the concept, or have been made to feel bad about themselves. Others pretend that anal is not such a big deal, that they can take it or leave it, when in fact it is what they desire

Although it may be losing the taboo it once had through the anonymity of the internet, whereby people feel able to speak freely, I don't think that comfort level has yet broken through into "real" life.

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Re: Other guys pretending?

Post by taylork » Fri Nov 01, 2013 4:34 pm

prettypink wrote:Well I can tell you for a fact that nearly all the guys I've been with have been very interested in my ass. It is one of life's little certainties :lol:

Thanks for saying that. Its what i thought. It doesn't matter that much anymore what they say i guess.

About what beansman saying that some guys would never find it appealing. Is that just because they think its dirty or don't want to get themselves dirty and not that they don't like the look of a womans ass? Thats what I think. I've read stupid comments about "stinkhole" whatever. I don't know, they just sound like the guys who'd find something nasty to say about women or something they didn't like.

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Re: Other guys pretending?

Post by lisa » Wed Nov 06, 2013 6:02 pm

In all honesty its more of the societal shaming of we girls who honestly love and prefer anal that has kept it in the dark so to speak. But I believe this is actually a recent (last hundred or so years) development.

Historically anal was very common, you had anal for pleasure, vaginal to conceive. I genuinely don't know how this changed :roll:

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Re: Other guys pretending?

Post by taylork » Wed Dec 18, 2013 5:33 pm

lisa wrote:In all honesty its more of the societal shaming of we girls who honestly love and prefer anal that has kept it in the dark so to speak. But I believe this is actually a recent (last hundred or so years) development.

Historically anal was very common, you had anal for pleasure, vaginal to conceive. I genuinely don't know how this changed :roll:

Sorry lisa i don't know why it took so long to reply on my own topic. I don't know about historically but i really agree about anal being for pleasure and vaginal for concieving. If only others could just give it a real try i think they would be happier with AO.

I think its so unfair about how there is the myth that women won't enjoy anal. I know it took a while for my gf to adjust and come to like it in the same way but she did try and we both had to work at it. But i understand its different for them and why. With other guys I mostly think they are lying for some reason about not liking anal or just haven't tried it.

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Re: Other guys pretending?

Post by Prince Albert » Fri Dec 20, 2013 8:51 am

I think maturity can be thrown it the ring too. I remember just after high school a bunch of my buddies and I rented a house and masturbation came up. The first guys was "like hell no I don't jerk off!" It then went around the room and 5-6 guys all said that they don't or have never masturbated. When it got to me and I said, " I've been pulling it since I was 12 and all you guys are liars." One by one they all changed there attitude towards masturbation during that conversation. I can see this type of attitude influencing men's attitude towards anal sex.
In the same house I had sex with a girl that came around to party and I admitted (bragged) to my buddies we had anal sex. Well the two most immature guys had a bunch of opinions and it was a lesson learned. I felt terrible for kissing and telling, thankfully she was cool about me spilling the beans (at least she let on that way) and I've never been that unthoughtful since.

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Re: Other guys pretending?

Post by prettypink » Fri Dec 20, 2013 2:48 pm

Prince Albert wrote:I think maturity can be thrown it the ring too.

This. Worrying about what others think is a preoccupation when you are younger, but diminishes as you mature.

Like I've said before, nearly all men have expressed and interest, if not preference, for anal. Anecdotal, I know, but there you go.

I can only say that what you've seen and heard may differ, as I've really no idea what guys say to each other when (if?) they talk about sex.

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Re: Other guys pretending?

Post by Marquis » Sat Dec 21, 2013 3:33 am

Most women do not prefer anal sex. As it would hardly be beneficial for a man to prefer something that isn't on the table, doesn't that play in at all?

Not to say that they are lying to themselves about their preference for vaginal, but rather that they prioritize relationship harmony over which hole they get to fuck.

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