I have two wonderful men in my life, but neither one of them is interested in AO. I know my beloved husband is more of a 'vanilla' guy, and we very rarely have anal sex. My boyfriend enjoys anal very much, but balks at the idea of going any length of time without vaginal sex. He says that he enjoys my pussy too much. I know I'll probably never get to enjoy a true AO lifestyle, but I'm upset that neither one of them is into the idea of trying it at all for any period of time.
Any ideas on what I can do? (aside from finding someone else who is into what I want)
Men that aren't that into anal?
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KeepItReal
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Re: Men that aren't that into anal?
Ah yes - the oft quoted myth on this forum... about men not being in to anal lol! 
The solution is simple:
1) Watch a lot of Anal porn together to get him in the mood
2) Tell him you wont give him any pussy... until he has your ass
3) Make sure you fuck him longer and harder with your ass than you ever did with your pussy
Problem solved!
The solution is simple:
1) Watch a lot of Anal porn together to get him in the mood
2) Tell him you wont give him any pussy... until he has your ass
3) Make sure you fuck him longer and harder with your ass than you ever did with your pussy
Problem solved!
The ASS, The Whole ASS, And Nothing But The ASS !!
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analonlylondonebony
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Re: Men that aren't that into anal?
Do you actually enjoy or get anything out of vaginal sex? I hope the answer is yes. It doesn't bare thinking about if the answer is no.
I don't care how much anyone enjoys my pussy. And I don't care how much I like them. If I'm not enjoying something, I just feel it's selfish of someone else to repeatedly insist on that thing because it suits them. I don't expect anyone to expect me to put up with that just to keep them happy. Just as I wouldn't expect anyone to put up with something I enjoyed with them.
If you get pleasure out of vaginal sex, then it's not so bad. Just could be better. What awful luck to have two men in your life that aren't totally into it.
I don't think watching anal porn is going to brainwash any man into enjoying it. Some men find it abhorrent because they associate the anus with pooing. Some men associate anal pleasure with homosexuality. If they've had an uncomfortable experience in early life (a predatory teacher; or a guilty experience in a boy's school), they are sworn off anal sex for life, even if it's with a woman.
The fact that you enjoy it and want it should be reason enough for them to give it a go.
Give the boy-friend an ultimatum. You get enough vaginal sex with your husband. Unless you get more out of the relationship than sex. But if it is just about the sex, you're having to go through sex you don't like because he thinks it's his right.
It's your right to enjoy sex too, every single time. You are not a trafficked sex slave with no choice.
There is an anal only lover out there for you.
I don't care how much anyone enjoys my pussy. And I don't care how much I like them. If I'm not enjoying something, I just feel it's selfish of someone else to repeatedly insist on that thing because it suits them. I don't expect anyone to expect me to put up with that just to keep them happy. Just as I wouldn't expect anyone to put up with something I enjoyed with them.
If you get pleasure out of vaginal sex, then it's not so bad. Just could be better. What awful luck to have two men in your life that aren't totally into it.
I don't think watching anal porn is going to brainwash any man into enjoying it. Some men find it abhorrent because they associate the anus with pooing. Some men associate anal pleasure with homosexuality. If they've had an uncomfortable experience in early life (a predatory teacher; or a guilty experience in a boy's school), they are sworn off anal sex for life, even if it's with a woman.
The fact that you enjoy it and want it should be reason enough for them to give it a go.
Give the boy-friend an ultimatum. You get enough vaginal sex with your husband. Unless you get more out of the relationship than sex. But if it is just about the sex, you're having to go through sex you don't like because he thinks it's his right.
It's your right to enjoy sex too, every single time. You are not a trafficked sex slave with no choice.
There is an anal only lover out there for you.
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analsexonly
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Re: Men that aren't that into anal?
KeepItReal wrote:Ah yes - the oft quoted myth on this forum... about men not being in to anal lol!
The solution is simple:
1) Watch a lot of Anal porn together to get him in the mood
2) Tell him you wont give him any pussy... until he has your ass
3) Make sure you fuck him longer and harder with your ass than you ever did with your pussy
Problem solved!
It's not a myth, it's a reality. Just because you, and in a greater sense all the men on this forum, love anal, doesn't mean all men do. Many are turned off by it. It's not a myth, it's a reality.
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KeepItReal
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Re: Men that aren't that into anal?
analsexonly wrote:KeepItReal wrote:Ah yes - the oft quoted myth on this forum... about men not being in to anal lol!
The solution is simple:
1) Watch a lot of Anal porn together to get him in the mood
2) Tell him you wont give him any pussy... until he has your ass
3) Make sure you fuck him longer and harder with your ass than you ever did with your pussy
Problem solved!
It's not a myth, it's a reality. Just because you, and in a greater sense all the men on this forum, love anal, doesn't mean all men do. Many are turned off by it. It's not a myth, it's a reality.
Almost all men want Anal - only a tiny minority dont! That is the reality dude... its shocking that you havent realised it yet!
What is an absolute myth - is that there are women who cant find men to give them Anal!
What next - you gonna believe that there are women desperate to suck dick... but just cant find anybody willing lol!
A message asking for guys who like Anal on Craigslist or any dating website... would leave women inundated with offers!
The ASS, The Whole ASS, And Nothing But The ASS !!
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Re: Men that aren't that into anal?
analsexonly wrote:It's not a myth, it's a reality. Just because you, and in a greater sense all the men on this forum, love anal, doesn't mean all men do. Many are turned off by it. It's not a myth, it's a reality.
Yes, and most of them seem to think that if they were to enjoy anal sex with a woman that makes them homosexual. That, or they have some religious aversion to it. Of course, there are some who are squeamish about the thought of poo on the pleasure stick.
That said, I think a vast majority of men aren't just open to anal sex, they fantasize about it.
Re: Men that aren't that into anal?
Thank you everyone!
I do love and can even orgasm from vaginal sex, but I also love the idea of being anal only. I do like being denied pleasure and I would love to learn to orgasm regularly from anal.
I doubt that my husband will come around. We don't watch porn anymore, and even when we did, he wasn't exactly picking up any ideas. I could never deny him what he wants sexually. I do love him dearly, and we have a wonderful marriage otherwise. I'm very lucky that he has accepted that I'm poly and let me explore other relationships.
My boyfriend isn't exactly built for anal, and there have been times we've tried and it just hasn't worked. It's probably the reason why he wouldn't want to even attempt to go anal only for any length of time. More than likely we would just not have sex as much, and he doesn't currently have another girlfriend to play with. I can't exactly fix the problem, and I don't want to be cruel either.
So I guess I'm stuck for now...
I do love and can even orgasm from vaginal sex, but I also love the idea of being anal only. I do like being denied pleasure and I would love to learn to orgasm regularly from anal.
I doubt that my husband will come around. We don't watch porn anymore, and even when we did, he wasn't exactly picking up any ideas. I could never deny him what he wants sexually. I do love him dearly, and we have a wonderful marriage otherwise. I'm very lucky that he has accepted that I'm poly and let me explore other relationships.
My boyfriend isn't exactly built for anal, and there have been times we've tried and it just hasn't worked. It's probably the reason why he wouldn't want to even attempt to go anal only for any length of time. More than likely we would just not have sex as much, and he doesn't currently have another girlfriend to play with. I can't exactly fix the problem, and I don't want to be cruel either.
So I guess I'm stuck for now...
