I've noticed from other anecdotes that many women transition into AO through orgasm denial. My wife will never buy that, especially since she believes it isn't possible for her. Before we met, she was a pansexual who preferred women.
And so, here's my question: is orgasm denial the only path for women to transition to AOL? The only way I think she will commit to AO is if she honestly prefers anal orgasms to vaginal. Then perhaps making such a decision, committing to it could amplify those anal orgasms?
Now though she’s gotten to where she can have orgasms while having anal, albeit with clitoral stimulation, and usually it’s multiple (one while having anal followed immediately by me eating her out).
Obviously I’d love for her to orgasm anally, and plan to suggest to her later this year about a month of regular anal sex, but it’s probably not where she’s at...yet (we have anal about once a week)
So while I can’t answer your exact question, I have seen progress with my wife and hope the same for you.
But like I said, I'm willing to wait. I'm going to spend the rest of my life with this woman, and with the way things are going now, it's going to be filled with mostly butt-loving. I hardly ever touch her vagina. 80% of our sexual affections is with her butt. It's just translating this change into penetrative sex that's taking longer. But hey, I'm in this for the long haul.
I genuinely appreciate your response. Hearing other's stories similar to mine makes me feel much more at ease with myself. Thanks!
Like amaizeg said, the trick isn't orgasm denial but not stimulating the genitals, ever, be it during sex or masturbation.
Obviously, at first, such a rule can lead to frustration, and the trick is, every time you feel a strong urge to have your genitals touched, have your ass stimulated instead - with a partner, your fingers, toys, or by wearing a butt plug. After a while, frustration will become perpetual horniness, you'll get hooked to the sensation, and actually, it'll make you want to be fucked in the ass even more.
Then, the turning point is your first anal orgasm: it's so powerful that you'll be happy to have gotten rid of genital stimulation, and you'll perceive your genitals as a pleasure killer rather than a pleasure giver. From there, it's really easy to become anal only. The process can take a few months.
Myself, after two years, I've gotten to the point where all my orgasms/ejaculation come from anal stimulation only (sometimes, I can ejaculate from deepthroating, but that's something else, it's just excitation), and I can make myself easily orgasm (anal orgasm + ejaculation) from fingering myself.
Something that can help during sex is covering your genitals with desensitising cream. It helps you shift your attention.