Married: Switch Roles?

[Str8Switch]

Hey I'm married now and we're about a year post partum, and her sex drive dropped off a cliff which is apparently normal?
My idea was to focus in her ass of course, until her pussy is back on line. She now claims that she was never really that in to anal which seems like a surprise, not sure what to think about that.
A while ago we started playing with my ass though, with a thigh strap on. I really like it and it seems like it really turns her on, like she had the her biggest (clit) orgasm in a long time last time we played with it. She doesn't know I have experience with guys and would love a big toy in my ass and mouth all the time. One thing I'm afraid of is her seeing me differently in real life if she sees me suck the toy or if our roles are completely reversed in bed. I'm alpha in real life and usually dom in bed with women. I guess my question is whether to wait out the sex drought or change the dynamic completely to her topping me (and having clit orgasms) and how to move that forward if that's what I do. Thanks.

[ricosuave0518]

So I grew up sheltered but reached puberty early. I felt hardons but only knew not to touch my dick to a conservative single mother. The feeling of wanting to orgasm grew internally without knowing what it was to the point of feeling good when i took a big poop. I experimented with my finger and slender objects trying to scratch that itch until I reached satisfaction not knowing what anything was and being scared due to religion and stuff. Basic military training and lack of opportunity made things difficult to the point that I could only finish with a finger - way close to the end of basic training. Fast forward to a few weeks before shipping to Japan that I had my first time with a girl - which was painful due to foreskin/ignorance and i couldn’t finish. I was never attracted to men but doubted myself because i couldn’t reach climax. Tried with a a Japanese girl in an until I learned to enjoy penetrating her - what a relief it was to no longer having to rely and hide anal stimulation to climax. I developed an anal fetish, only fantasizing penetrating women analy. Fast forward to various different women, and eventually marriage, and a postpartum dry spell that I once again found myself craving anal stimulation. I kept pushing my wife for at least anal sex (arriving home to a newborn after a 3mo deployment) to which she was opposed to until she gave me an ultimatum - ether I accepted her penetrating me first or she would otherwise never agree to me penetrating her anally. I was hesitant to accept for fear or her seeing me differently, so I played it like I was saying yes for the first time. I climaxed with difficultly because I was not used to someone touching me like that but it sold the ruse. Now when she is not in the mood or has her cycle we choose my butt instead of hers - which coincidentally she now prefers to receive rough anal with some clit stimulation prior to getting pounded.

My advice is being honest, but the alternative also works since she will think it was her idea all along anyway.

As a side note: my wife has told me I am free to try other women or even men if my urge gets too critical when I’m away from home. She strongly encourages me to try men because me doing so would make her fetish come a reality, her seeing me bottoming - but I’m not interested in men at all.