I just wanted to stress, that I'm not actively searching for an AO partner. So lack of success isn't quite the right word. Just that I am realistic that most men are not satisfied with AO. And I'm not interested in weaning someone off vagina, as there is no guarantee this will happen. And just as a man has to call it a day with a non-anal woman when his entreaties, threats and bribes haven't worked, I can't be bothered going through the motions. Frenchman, who posted here, is uniquely lucky! To meet someone, hit it off, then find that in common without politely going down the conventional pussy route for fear of sounding perverted.
I have a friend married for 20 plus years and out of the blue, she found religion and banned anal. He is distraught and feels cheated. We spend ours on the phone plotting strategies for him to win her back over. Personally, I think he's screwed for good and can say goodbye to anal forever.
I am not compromising on this. My mistake was getting into it in the first place.
KeepItReal wrote:analonlylondonebony wrote:
Disappointment is an understatement. But he's in his element and thinks he's found the woman of his dreams. My stomach turned when he went into graphic detail about how much he'd enjoyed performing oral on me. Not once did he mention the anal sex, or looking forward to that. He and I are looking for different things.
At this stage it does appear so. However its entirely down to you whether you're willing to take the steps required to change this situation. Or whether you simply want to cut your losses and move on. Considering your apparent lack of success in finding an AO partner so far, I would hope you first make every attempt to "tell"or "teach" this guy what you want, before deciding to call it a day.