Question about men's feelings

[marcus]

My sex life began at age eight, so I was able to develop my own opinions about anal sex before I knew about the stigma at all. Easy!

For most people it takes many years before they become confident and self assured about their own sense of right and wrong. Generally speaking, a persons sense of guilt or shame is due to external factors: peer and social pressure. And those forces shape our own views.

[marcus]

My sex life began at age eight, so I was able to develop my own opinions about anal sex before I knew about the stigma at all. Easy!

For most people it takes many years before they become confident and self assured about their own sense of right and wrong. Generally speaking, a persons sense of guilt or shame is due to external factors: peer and social pressure. And those forces shape our own views.

[HalfHeart]

A guy I used to know would always say "well why don't you just fuck a guy, then?" That used to get on my nerves, because by that logic handjobs and oral sex are also inherently gay sex acts. I guess I've always found the anal sex taboo more pointless than oppressive.

[FarmerDan]

>why don't you just fuck a guy, then?
I just love blowing this question away.

Statistically a guy is much more likely to be having anal sex (giving or receiving) with a woman than a guy.

Hard numbers are rare but gay guys are about 2-3% of a typical western population, and as many as half of those aren't having anal sex. On the other hand it's emerging that as many as 25-40% of women are enjoying anal sex at least some of the time (including a significant number who like to be the 'top'). So it's more than ten to one against being gay if you like anal sex.

It's also worth pointing out that gay guys don't have any choice but anal or oral. In contrast, the women who receive anal are doing it because they prefer it.

[nopussy]

I don't think there was any "coming to terms with it" or "accepting it" - I love anal sex, and I don't really care if people have a problem with that.

If my partner has a problem with it, that wouldn't be so good. But then I'd just find a new partner. (While it's important to be willing to compromise sexually, you shouldn't have to compromise on everything. I love anal sex, I love it more than any other kind of sex. I simply wouldn't be happy in a relationship if it wasn't happening at least somewhat regularly.)

[nopussy]

I think in today's world, it should be easier for guys to open up about anal fetishes. It is really common, and while there are still a lot of women who hold an unreasonably negative prejudice about it, the only thing that solves that is more open discussion.

Yeah, in my experience, anal sex is actually quite common. I don't have the impression that the world is against it. That could just down to where I live, though. I guess if I was living somewhere very conservative like the American south, I might have a different impression.

[nopussy]

Just personally, I think I was more interested in vaginal sex when I didn't watch exclusively anal porn. Maybe that's just me.

As far as I recall, I've had a preference for anal sex for as long as I've known about it. Maybe what initially attracted me was the taboo aspect - that it's the "wrong" way to do it.

I don't think my love of anal could have come from porn, since it wasn't that I watched lots of porn, and gradually got into anal. Rather I specifically started searching for anal when I started watching porn.

With that said, I don't doubt that the wide availability of porn, plus the large amount of anal you see in porn, is at least partially responsible for making anal sex more mainstream. (Same is probably true for facials. There's a case in which I definitely was influenced by porn. I enjoy cumming on my girl's face - I doubt I'd even have considered it if it wasn't for seeing it in lots of porn.)

[nopussy]

If anything i think porn is helping.

I'm ambivalent about it. On the one hand, it's probably helping to make it more mainstream. On the other, it's giving a lot of people bad ideas about how it should be done. Porn doesn't show you all the prep you have to do, it doesn't show you that a lot of women can only do it very slowly, it doesn't show you that you might have to spend months working on anal play before you can put your cock in there, etc. So there's a lot of girls who'll agree to try anal, but their men just try to ram it in there - which of course causes a lot of pain and just puts them off doing it ever again.

I think it even looks more natural too, whatever people say about it. Something about anal looks right.

There's something very elegant and simple about the anus, and it's very alluring how it makes a perfect ring around your cock. The pussy really does look like a gash, a haphazard wound. Not that I dislike pussies. But assholes are sexier.

[Robert]

There's something very elegant and simple about the anus, and it's very alluring how it makes a perfect ring around your cock. The pussy really does look like a gash, a haphazard wound. Not that I dislike pussies. But assholes are sexier.

It's good to know that other men are thinking the same thing and I needn't feel guilty about these feelings. IT IS 100% okay to be attracted to women but still prefer her anus to anything else. I think they are really beautiful to look at. And it is healthy to accept that this attraction is normal and natural.