Question about men's feelings

[assmaster]

My girlfriend seems fine with the fact that I come in her ass 90 percent of the time and the other 10 percent of the time in her mouth. I feel okay about it too because she enjoys our sex life so much. In our entire relationship (3.5 years) I have only come in her pussy once, and I thought I was in her ass. She laughed as she went out the door to get the morning after pill, thinking it was hilarious that I only came in her pussy b/c I thought I was in her ass!

[ausguy]

While I can't claim to be totally put off vaginal sex, I can imagine it would be frustrating for someone who is. I do wonder though if pornography doesn't have anything to do with that.

Just personally, I think I was more interested in vaginal sex when I didn't watch exclusively anal porn. Maybe that's just me.

[marcus]

While I can't claim to be totally put off vaginal sex, I can imagine it would be frustrating for someone who is. I do wonder though if pornography doesn't have anything to do with that.

Just personally, I think I was more interested in vaginal sex when I didn't watch exclusively anal porn. Maybe that's just me.

Individual tastes change over time it's true. I wouldn't disagree that what people see can influence them. But for myself I always knew even before I could understand or explain that I had a different sexual preference to many men. These were the days before internet porn, when other porn was not readily available.

[taylork]

While I can't claim to be totally put off vaginal sex, I can imagine it would be frustrating for someone who is. I do wonder though if pornography doesn't have anything to do with that.

Just personally, I think I was more interested in vaginal sex when I didn't watch exclusively anal porn. Maybe that's just me.

If anything i think porn is helping. Guys can see for themselves that is is easily done and is much better than vaginal and nothing to worry about. I think it even looks more natural too, whatever people say about it. Something about anal looks right.

[Robert]

Right now I'm just a little conflicted. Part of me is accpeting. Having discovered this "lifestyle" so much is making sense. I know I want (and need) to be AO more than anything. It's like one of those moments of clarity in life when for once you're sure about something.

On the other hand I realise I'm just a tad obsessed with the whole thing right now and need to stay grounded. I just spent hours on and off ready back through all the posts and thinking things over. While this is probably the most important thing in my life and don't want it too take over my life.

[TheDirtyDon]

Maybe we are all a bit obsessed with it, that's why we come to this forum. I wouldn't over think it too much as it will happen slowly and you don't notice the change until one day.... Its just the norm. I never thought about going AO as a lifestyle choice until very recently and at this point in my life, there is no conflict at all.

[Robert]

So I was feeling on the up, encouraged and positive about the direction I want to go and with the support of you lot behind me. I honestly thought what I wanted to was the right thing for both me *and* my girlfriend. Then yesterday in another thread there was the suggestion that we're actually being selfish for wanting AO like we are forcing it our partners. Now I don't know what is right.
Could be the rest of you have a head start on coming to terms with what it all means or maybe I've been to caught up in it and not thinking things through. Sometimes you just can't win even when you feel you're being honest with yourself and others about who you are and then you find yourself unde attack for those beliefs.

[TheDirtyDon]

I think I said this before, you might be over thinking it. Keep going as you are, go with it and enjoy it. I never thought about being AO until 3 years in and it was a conclusion we both came to. You might be expecting a lot of yourselves a wee bit too soon?

I wouldn't put too much stock in the views of others, including me. Do what feels right for you and your gf. I don't think you or others on here with same taste for anal are being selfish.

[marcus]

I think mcmoose has some sensible advice for you there. Only you know what is best for yourself and your girlfriend. There is no wrong or right as long as whatever you do is agreed by both and makes you both happy. As he says, just don't try and race ahead - just take your time.

Sadly there is and always will be negative attitudes and prejudice about our preference for anal. Hence the description of AO as a "fetish" and the suggestion it is somehow not "natural". That's just the way it is.

[HalfHeart]

My sex life began at age eight, so I was able to develop my own opinions about anal sex before I knew about the stigma at all. Easy!