Re: I'm About To Make A Mistake, I Think
Posted: Sun Mar 29, 2015 9:00 am
There's asking and there's pushing. I'd get a sinking feeling in my stomach if a guy I thought was anal only were to ask about other stuff.
This guy didn't ask. He just assumed. But then I missed the opportunity to drive my point home before we met. Maybe if there'd been some decent anal, I might have grinned and borne it. But right now, I'm not in a grin and bare it mood.
If a guy messages me about something, I read a lot into it. The other day, a guy asked if he should bring condoms. 1. did this mean he was hoping condoms were optional 2. did this mean that he thought I should be providing them? Either way, I wasn't impressed and never responded and we shan't be meeting. A person brings up a topic for a reason, I believe.
This guy didn't ask. He just assumed. But then I missed the opportunity to drive my point home before we met. Maybe if there'd been some decent anal, I might have grinned and borne it. But right now, I'm not in a grin and bare it mood.
If a guy messages me about something, I read a lot into it. The other day, a guy asked if he should bring condoms. 1. did this mean he was hoping condoms were optional 2. did this mean that he thought I should be providing them? Either way, I wasn't impressed and never responded and we shan't be meeting. A person brings up a topic for a reason, I believe.
A-man wrote:
I think you’re right, Analonlyebony. Most of the guys that do like anal probably need the other stuff too from time to time. For sure.
As a true anal only guy (one that only needs anal ever), I’ll just add a word of caution: sometimes I’ll bring up other forms of sex just to “probe” and see how “anal only” she is. It’s just my way of feeling out how compatible we are without being too “anal only” right off the bat. Some of the guys you’ve been dealing with/messaging might be doing something similar (obviously not the guy you were just with though).