FarmerDan wrote:I've been trawling the internet since the first days of the internet (yes, Haunter, there was a time Before Internet, when people somehow managed to have sex).
At first the internet was inhabited entirely by geeks, who have no knowledge of or interest in sex (once in a while a geek would post another geek a low res picture of a naked breast so they could puzzle over what it might be.
After a while people who were truly kinky and hence thought outside the square started to show up and huzzah! some were female. For few years I ran into interesting and adventurous people. It was like being in a small club of like minds and good times resulted. Yes, including some very satisfying anal adventures.
And then the masses showed up, and everything went downhill. Fake tits, fake news. People hitting on each other for the sex and the money alone. I haven't had a good connection on line in more than a decade, and not just because I'm ancient (I do just fine in the non-cyber world, thank you).
Ah but amid this bleakness there is some very good news for anal addicts. If and when you meet someone offline there is a much higher chance these days that they are curious about, interested in, or even experienced in anal sex. You only have to show them that you can be trusted with this most intimate part of their body.
I do remember those pre-internet days. Those dark, terrible days. When an encyclopedia was basically the internet. And ordering stuff online involved going to a specialty store and have the guy there pull out endless catalogs. And online anal porn consisted of having to go a video rental store. Or buy it in a porn shop. They say never judge a book by its cover and boy does that caveat apply to renting or buying porn.
No, I lived without the internet for a good part of my existence, and yet I don't think I could go back to those days.
Except for mobile phones. I hate those damn things. No, let me rephrase that, I hate the way people can't stop looking like zombies at those damn things in the most ridiculous and inopportune places. That's one part of my pre-internet days I still carry with me. I don't have the need to constantly check to see what others are doing online. If I want to know that I'd rather go meet them in person and have them tell me.
Do not take that trust lightly by the way. Surveys show that most women are turned off by their first experience of anal sex because their partner was impatient, uncaring, and/or ignorant! As disciple of AOL you have a duty to spread the word that anal sex done right is deeply rewarding. Be prepared to demonstrate ..
Amen, brother! Amen!
Sgt_Valk wrote:@Annomundi, i understand the women's strife in this. This is what happens when society says that a male MUST make the first move and you give them the anonymity of the internet. Reread that for again. Every man on the internet that passes by that girls page will try to make the first move.... because that is what society has taught them
It's part that, I fully agree. But there's also part choice addiction and choice phobia. In the dark days before the internet you were limited in your choice of partners in the people that you would meet in daily life and your network. Internet dating basically consisted of dating agencies or placing an add in a newspaper or magazine. The term mailorder bride stems from those days. Nowadays you have access to a choice of potential partners from all over the world if need be. The choices are now endless. It's like having gone from having to chose between 2 or 3 brands of peanut butter in a supermarket to dozens. This creates confusion, but also choice addiction and choice phobia. The former causes you to seek more and more potential partners, thus stopping you from making a choice. The latter stops you from making a choice because what if, out of all those thousands of potential partners, you chose the wrong one? What if a better partner comes along? Better keep on looking!
Nobody wants to settle, like it has become a dirty word. Everybody wants that fairy tale prince charming, or princess perfect. As usual the quest for perfection is what keeps us from enjoying and exploring what is potentially perfectly alright. Musicians often say that less is more, and I think the principle applies to dating too. It's better to have a small selection to chose from, that you get to know really well, then have the choice of tens of thousands who you know hardly at all.
@ Haunter: Maybe you should try a dating agency? They're not going to select for you on the basis of AO, but unlike onlike dating you at least will get to meet some women in person. And that's going to be a hell of a lot better chance then you will get with things like OKC.