Anal Only Lifestyle Forum

Hi,

I've never had vaginal sex, but had anal with my regular boyfriend. Now i'm single for some time. I don't really want to have serious relationship at the moment. Also don't want to get fucked in the pussy. I was wondering should i use some dating sites to find some guy's to receive anal pleasure? I mean, i am afraid to get fucked into wrong hole, because it's hard to trust a guy who you met for 1-few night stands. Anyone has some experience on that?

Date like normal. Don't give it up right away, but when your date brings up sex, make it clear that you have a hole that is off limits. And if they wont accept that, then that is where it ends. Period. Dot. End of story. You may connect on other levels, but as the receiver, you have the power of what is on the table and what isnt. Same as what goes for D/s relationships. Dom has control, but if they pass the preset line, the deal is broken and the sub can stop it at any point, and any respectable dom will stop and apologies will be given and if they knew they passed that point, they wont even expect forgiveness.

Your partner should respect what you want, if they want something you dont want to give, then they arent worthy of the gift you are giving them.

I've been AO for a good while. I date men. In almost every case, when you tell them they will be having anal sex, they start ripping their own clothes off, frothing at the mouth, and get an instant hard on. They then want the anal sex right there and then, even if you are still in the restaurant, and once you get home, will hump your leg all the way to the bedroom.
I wouldn't worry too much.

I'm having similar doubts. I had a talk with someone recently who really gave off bad vibes. He kept asking why I didn't want it in my pussy, and while he didn't try to convince me, he constantly made references to how "enticing" my pussy would be, how "irresistible" and so on... And now I'm afraid of encountering more guys like that. Guys who I'm 100% sure only want it because they can't have it. Or downright dishonest guys who won't have a minimum of respect. It's annoying.

Imagine trying to find a girl that is willing to have anal... and only anal. Sure some women are willing to have it occasionally... but the vast majority expect vaginal regularly. I have only met a few women in person that would be even willing to go anal only, and even that comes with quite a bit of stipulations. Like im looking for one butt for the long run. And it could take a while to find her, but if she were dating a guy that only wanted vaginal, she would have approved 40 times over. Now i dont want to rain on anyones parade, but regardless of your gender, sex, identity or orientation, Ao can be difficult. But this is our sexual life. Our sexual release. Our freedom in a sense. Sometimes we need to take a chance. We need to go out and find new people knowing what we want, and tell them what we want. And if what they have to offer is less than what our expectations hold, we turn them down. And when that happens we keep looking for potential. They dont have to be perfect at first. But they do have to know that anal is all you are willing to do. And if that isnt 'enough' for them? Then it wasnt meant to be. Move along.

Women! You'll cheerfully say no, not interested to 99.9% of all the guys you'll meet, and then, when you finally do have a guy in the bedroom and he insists on doing vaginal you seem to have forgotten how to say no, not interested? What a luxury problem to have from a man's perspective.

As St. Valk said girls who are AO are rare as dirt. For the average man he has to approach a LOT of women to just get a few who will go out with him. Of those even fewer will do anal. Of those even rarer still will be AO. I'm glad that this site exists, for it made me feel so liberating to know I wasn't the only one with this kink. I was so happy to find this place and still am. And yet it also depresses the hell out of me to know there are so many fine AO ladies here whom I will probably never get to meet. Because knowing that a unicorn is out there makes it harder to settle for less.

And that's probably what most men who are into anal do. They probably don't expect to get any anal, period, or hopefully that only after some considerable time that she might get adventurous. So they go for the pussy first, can't believe their luck if they meet an AO lady and think they're dreaming, that even then they still have to go for the pussy at some point. And there are probably also some guys who get off on getting the girl off and who have become pussy specialists, and who are now suddenly in terra incognita territory and now suddenly clueless on how to proceed. And what do you do in such a case? You try to go back to familiar territory. I can imagine that to such a man you ladies are outside context problems.

AnnoMundi wrote:Women! You'll cheerfully say no, not interested to 99.9% of all the guys you'll meet, and then, when you finally do have a guy in the bedroom and he insists on doing vaginal you seem to have forgotten how to say no, not interested? What a luxury problem to have from a man's perspective.

Let me present you with this scenario: I am a woman. I have met an awesome guy. We're going to have sex. I tell him I only want anal. He says "sure, no problem!". Then the moment I get distracted in the middle of it, he puts it in my vagina. I tell him to stop. He doesn't. Because he was lying, and he's a scumbag, and it was impossible to tell until the moment it happened.

My, what a problem to have, right?

Let me present you with this scenario: I am a woman. I have met an awesome guy. We're going to have sex. I tell him I only want anal. He says "sure, no problem!". Then the moment I get distracted in the middle of it, he puts it in my vagina. I tell him to stop. He doesn't. Because he was lying, and he's a scumbag, and it was impossible to tell until the moment it happened.

How did it end? If anyone I make swear not to do an intimate act to me then did it without my approval, or -even worse case- didn't stop IMMEDIATELY on my order, I would get unspeakably furious, I would not allow him/her to get out alive, say.

Haunter wrote:

Let me present you with this scenario: I am a woman. I have met an awesome guy. We're going to have sex. I tell him I only want anal. He says "sure, no problem!". Then the moment I get distracted in the middle of it, he puts it in my vagina. I tell him to stop. He doesn't. Because he was lying, and he's a scumbag, and it was impossible to tell until the moment it happened.

How did it end? If anyone I make swear not to do an intimate act to me then did it without my approval, or -even worse case- didn't stop IMMEDIATELY on my order, I would get unspeakably furious, I would not allow him/her to get out alive, say.

It was a hypothetical scenario, fortunately it hasn't happened to me. Sadly, stuff like that is depressingly common. And it should end with a call to the police and a jail sentence because hey, it's rape.

Anyway we're getting off topic. And I'm focusing a lot on the worst-possible-scenario, when in reality most men are down with anal only. It's just that dating and getting to know new people is always an ordeal.

Just saying. If a guy starts talking sexually about you vagina, act repulsed like he just tipped a handicapped persons wheel chair onto a baby kitten for fun. I think he will get the point pretty fast.