Don't always believe what you see.

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Don't always believe what you see.

Post by Buttwoman » Sun Jun 25, 2017 5:32 am

We have a sudden rash of posts from people that seem to believe that porn movies are real life.
I love porn, but honestly...it's fantasy.
You can't have anal sex by accident. With your sphincter closed, you can hit it with a smart car, and it won't go in.
First anal sex. They do mean - First anal sex today.
Any idiot can gape there ass during anal sex- Once your open and relaxed, get on all fours, put your tits on your knees and the weight of your own guts will drop forward. If your asshole doesn't stay open by itself, pull your buttcheeks apart. It not a special talent, or training. It's a trick that accomplishes little.
Do NOT show your girlfriend your favorite anal movie to try to get her to comply. It will probably scare her half to death. That's not how real people have anal sex.

If you want into her darkest recess, love her, be romantic, a little wine (but don't get her drunk), play gently with her, and re assure her. Finger her with lots of lube, and make her know you are the gentle soul you are (right?)

Enjoy your porn. It's entertainment, not a learning experience.

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Post by singleinDC » Sun Jun 25, 2017 6:43 am

Unfortunately, a generation of young men has "learned" from porn that the back door is just another hole to shove their dick in. Do they even still have sex ed in school anymore? They should at least teach the kids how anal works, for safety reasons if nothing else.

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Post by Buttwoman » Sun Jun 25, 2017 7:04 am

Single in DC- I used to work at a Catholic school. They did have sex ed, but it was basically about abstinence. I talked to a few teenagers about sex ed in public school. They teach a decent bit about contraception, and disease. That's a good thing. They don't really talk about HOW to have sex. The most they learn about anal is that some people do it, and to still wear a condom. Sadly lacking.

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Post by analsexonly » Sun Jun 25, 2017 7:11 am

Of course, porn is fantasy and a poor source for sex ed, especially with anal, which requires far more than is generally shown in porn to be enjoyable for most. However, I'm not sure how that relates to what seems to be a pet peeve against gaping that you've expressed here and elsewhere. Yes, it's relatively easy to do, and if you don't care for it, that's fine, but a lot of men and women both do find it attractive. It's a way of visually showing openness and readiness for anal sex, or if done after sex, is sort of an illustration of the results of sex, similar to how a man may enjoy the visuals of a woman he just had sex with with his semen on her or coming out of her. Many people are visual in nature, and seeing an open, relaxed ass has its appeal for many. It has nothing to do with porn.

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Post by singleinDC » Sun Jun 25, 2017 7:23 am

Buttwoman wrote:Single in DC- I used to work at a Catholic school. They did have sex ed, but it was basically about abstinence. I talked to a few teenagers about sex ed in public school. They teach a decent bit about contraception, and disease. That's a good thing. They don't really talk about HOW to have sex. The most they learn about anal is that some people do it, and to still wear a condom. Sadly lacking.

You'd think a religious school would be more likely to endorse anal! :) I do remember my Catholic confirmation classes though, and my sex ed experience there was the same as your Catholic school.

I saw you are from Canada, and I'm surprised your public school sex ed there is as conservative as it is here.

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Re: Don't always believe what you see.

Post by Buttwoman » Sun Jun 25, 2017 7:39 am

They teach the important stuff, but no, nothing about really having sex, love, commitment, feeling. I have a feeling that, like my generation, teenagers first sex is still clumsy, painful, and fast. Also, I think one thing won't change quickly- How I learned to have anal sex. I stuck my ass in the air, and said 'Go for it'.

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Post by Analonely » Sun Jun 25, 2017 8:39 am

analsexonly wrote:Of course, porn is fantasy and a poor source for sex ed, especially with anal, which requires far more than is generally shown in porn to be enjoyable for most. However, I'm not sure how that relates to what seems to be a pet peeve against gaping that you've expressed here and elsewhere.

I think she's trying to convey a general dissatisfaction for "fantasies" that doesn't relate to reality, or at least not like they're being displayed. Porn tends to instrumentalize and objectify everything, which in turn leads people to improbable and/or depersonalized "fantasies".

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There can be no such thing as 'sexual education' for sex or, better said, lovemaking — and I'm not being corny here — cannot really be taught (at least not in the laic sense).

Western civilization doesn't have any book or even a cohesive compilation of texts regarding lovemaking. What we do have is science and worse—scientism — barging their ways into a domain which doesn't concern them, just like they've been doing for too long past due in pretty much every domain. It even bore the hideous phenomenon of sex coaches (among many others).

Lovemaking is a subject that must be taught by the family and the family alone.

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Re: Don't always believe what you see.

Post by Buttwoman » Sun Jun 25, 2017 9:14 am

"You'd think a religious school would be more likely to endorse anal! :) "

Oh, they do, but only between the priests, and the younger male students.

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Post by analsexonly » Sun Jun 25, 2017 9:17 am

Analonely wrote: Western civilization doesn't have any book or even a cohesive compilation of texts regarding lovemaking. What we do have is science and worse—scientism — barging their ways into a domain which doesn't concern them, just like they've been doing for too long past due in pretty much every domain. It even bore the hideous phenomenon of sex coaches (among many others).

Lovemaking is a subject that must be taught by the family and the family alone.

Utterly ridiculous.

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Re: Don't always believe what you see.

Post by singleinDC » Sun Jun 25, 2017 9:34 am

Buttwoman wrote:"You'd think a religious school would be more likely to endorse anal! :) "

Oh, they do, but only between the priests, and the younger male students.

Zing! :lol:

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