Dating dilemma
Posted: Sat Oct 28, 2017 11:04 pm
Hey everyone,
It's been forever since I've posted here, so I'm glad to see the community is still good and strong. I'd like to pose a question to all, as I'm sure many of you may have run into this same scenario.
I've been on a streak of meeting women who all were at least open to anal (and grew to like it with my guidance). My streak has slowed now, and I recently met someone that I actually really enjoy spending time with and may be willing to go steady for...except for one major problem: she's not open to anal. Now, that isn't to say that getting her into it is impossible - but my experience so far tells me that I'd be taking a huge gamble when there isn't at least some intrinsic openness or curiosity for me to work with, and I feel that the odds of introducing someone to it successfully are low when the mindset against it is so strong.
So, my question to you all: how do you approach that situation? On one hand, I like this woman and would hope she might loosen up over time (she's into the mild S&M that I've introduced her to), but the last thing I want is to form attachment to someone who may never be able to fulfill my need for anal activity. I'm not even asking for AO, but I've come to accept that regular anal play/sex is important for my sexual satisfaction. I can't help but feel petty for considering this so strongly in my decision to go steady or not, especially since she otherwise seems like she would be good for me...
Your thoughts on this would be really appreciated.
DH
It's been forever since I've posted here, so I'm glad to see the community is still good and strong. I'd like to pose a question to all, as I'm sure many of you may have run into this same scenario.
I've been on a streak of meeting women who all were at least open to anal (and grew to like it with my guidance). My streak has slowed now, and I recently met someone that I actually really enjoy spending time with and may be willing to go steady for...except for one major problem: she's not open to anal. Now, that isn't to say that getting her into it is impossible - but my experience so far tells me that I'd be taking a huge gamble when there isn't at least some intrinsic openness or curiosity for me to work with, and I feel that the odds of introducing someone to it successfully are low when the mindset against it is so strong.
So, my question to you all: how do you approach that situation? On one hand, I like this woman and would hope she might loosen up over time (she's into the mild S&M that I've introduced her to), but the last thing I want is to form attachment to someone who may never be able to fulfill my need for anal activity. I'm not even asking for AO, but I've come to accept that regular anal play/sex is important for my sexual satisfaction. I can't help but feel petty for considering this so strongly in my decision to go steady or not, especially since she otherwise seems like she would be good for me...
Your thoughts on this would be really appreciated.
DH