How should I tell my girlfriend I want to be anal only ?

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Re: How should I tell my girlfriend I want to be anal only ?

Post by Peachy V » Fri Oct 27, 2023 12:41 am

You're not going to "convince her", if she doesn't like it as much as you and is doing it 3 times a week it sounds like she is already meeting you more than halfway. You can bring it up, maybe work on ways to get her to enjoy it more. But if she doesn't want it you have to respect that.

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Re: How should I tell my girlfriend I want to be anal only ?

Post by Backdoorlover » Fri Oct 27, 2023 3:12 am

I agree with @Peachy V here. There was a time in ly life that 3 times a week would have been a dream come true for me. Back then anal was more like once a month tops.

So as said, see that she enjoys it so much that she asks for it more often. Don’t be selfish or you may loose what you have instead of gaining what you want.
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Re: How should I tell my girlfriend I want to be anal only ?

Post by TelJ2003 » Mon Dec 11, 2023 9:19 am

I have discussed anal with my boyfriend. We've been together nearly 6 months and I've never wanted anal more than the way I feel now. He seems a little anxious about it so I really hope that he agrees. I will keep 'suggesting' and I hope he bites!!

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Re: How should I tell my girlfriend I want to be anal only ?

Post by TelJ2003 » Wed Dec 13, 2023 3:37 am

Update! We had anal sex for the first time last night. He was an anal virgin and was initially very gentle but I had him drilling me before long. Lets just say we will be doing it again tonight!

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Re: How should I tell my girlfriend I want to be anal only ?

Post by Colt1911 » Wed Dec 13, 2023 6:24 am

TelJ2003 wrote:
Wed Dec 13, 2023 3:37 am
Update! We had anal sex for the first time last night. He was an anal virgin and was initially very gentle but I had him drilling me before long. Lets just say we will be doing it again tonight!

Glad you found an anal partner. As someone who has craved anal sex since I was a teen, it’s hard to imagine a man that wouldn’t strongly prefer anal, but I’m sure they exist. Enjoy the anal only experience and let us know how it’s progressing.

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Re: How should I tell my girlfriend I want to be anal only ?

Post by TelJ2003 » Wed Dec 13, 2023 7:47 am

Apart from my boyfriend when I was 17, most of my ex-boyfriends were not fans of anal. Its perhaps the fact that I'm an oral diva, they had a good time!! I taught them a few things so I had fun also. My boyfriend is different. I think its a case that I trust him and I'm able to relax with him, hence making anal a lot better. Didn't use any lube last night so don't need to get any more. I'm plugged having a cup of coffee!

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Re: How should I tell my girlfriend I want to be anal only ?

Post by Sarah42 » Fri Dec 15, 2023 3:09 pm

Like a few people here have already pointed out, you have to recognize that your sex life involves both of you - and needs to ensure her pleasure as well.

Ask her what she thinks about anal and find out what she likes and doesn’t like about it. Then really do your research to find out how to do anal well (you’re not going to learn by watching porn) and focus on her pleasure every time so she starts to crave it.

Twice a week is more frequently than a lot of people. You also need to find out how anal affects her body. Sometimes I feel like men miss that point. If you’re being penetrated it takes time for your insides to go back to normal or heal before doing it again. It’s not a pussy. When my husband and I first started my asshole would be swollen for a day or two, and if I had any minor tears I’d need longer to heal those as well. My body needed time, and there was nothing I could do to speed it up. If my husband pushed me or seemed ungrateful for my efforts (and healing!) I would have just taken it off the table.

If you’re cumming in her ass it might take her 1-2 days for her body to readjust and get through the
messiness the loose poops the next day. Talk to her. Ask how anal affects her body and find ways to make it more enjoyable. Be selfless not selfish in your endeavor.

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Re: How should I tell my girlfriend I want to be anal only ?

Post by Backdoorlover » Fri Dec 15, 2023 5:34 pm

Sarah. Some things you write about don’t apply in general on women , while I read it like you think it is.

My girlfriend can assfuck multiple times a day , she’s never in pain, never has a tear. Her inner spincter is where the joy is. She loves deep fucks. And reading around this forum tells me she’s absolutely not the only one.

I would dare to turn things around here. If people have problems with anal sex, there are things that are not done in the right way. A swollen spincter ? Seems to me like wrong lube or not enough of it. Tears ? To dry or his cock is very thick. In the last case he should ease in slowly.
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Re: How should I tell my girlfriend I want to be anal only ?

Post by semi-normal » Fri Dec 15, 2023 10:21 pm

Physical issues are not normally the issue with most women, it is mental. If a woman is open minded, it is a different world.

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Re: How should I tell my girlfriend I want to be anal only ?

Post by TelJ2003 » Mon Dec 18, 2023 1:56 pm

I've been lucky not to have any tearing or ill effects from anal. With my ex we would have anal every night and that was more me wanting it rather than him demanding. My boyfriend takes his cues from me and doesn't push things. We are having a night off anal although we can still have fun! A night or 2 off will make us both crave it more.

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