GF loves anal but won’t do it

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Alover
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GF loves anal but won’t do it

Post by Alover » Wed Feb 26, 2020 12:24 am

My girlfriend loves anal but we’ll only do it once a month if lucky.
Any advice on how to make her crave it?

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Re: GF loves anal but won’t do it

Post by Analien » Mon Mar 02, 2020 8:49 am

May I ask what prevents her from having anal sex more often?
Vstříc análním orgasmům.

Alover
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Re: GF loves anal but won’t do it

Post by Alover » Tue Mar 03, 2020 2:07 am

She’s afraid we could have an accident but won’t do enemas, sometimes it’s an stomachache, or just that she doesn’t feel like it. Also, she says that her pussy gets “jealous”.
Other problem it’s that after her first or second anal orgasm she cannot continue because her ass becomes sore and I’ll have to finish by myself.
I know that maybe doing it more often would help her get used to it, but neither of us wants her to force herself.

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Re: GF loves anal but won’t do it

Post by PetGirl » Tue Mar 03, 2020 9:49 am

I used to be like your girlfriend but over time I realized how turned on I get by anything anal and I am now addicted to how horny it makes me.
Things that helped me get into doing it more often:

Wearing a butt plug every day (this is the main one)
Watching anal porn and reading erotica about anal or about orgasm/clitoral denial
Using a douche bulb to rinse my rectum with just a small amount of water
Getting a bidet to make it easy to keep clean
Setting the expectation with my partner that I should keep my ass ready for him. I just do a little routine when I get home after work. I put my plug in- wear it for a bit- then go check if things are clean in there. If not give myself a rinse. Put the plug back in.

I went from anal a few times a year to a few times a week. Good luck!

Alover
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Re: GF loves anal but won’t do it

Post by Alover » Tue Mar 03, 2020 2:00 pm

Thanks for the response.
I'll try to talk to her about your advices but, for her, the douche is a no no. She hasn't done it but is grossed out about the idea. About daily wearing the butt-plug, I think I brought it up some time ago and she told me that she would only wear it prior to having anal. Anyways, I'll tell her this weekend and I'll write an update.
By the way, from your point of view as a woman, would you see it as manipulative if your boyfriend told you that doing anal makes him happy? Sometimes I feel guilt when I'm trying to "convince" her to do it more often because on one hand I love the sensations and I feel free/unjudge because I can do what I enjoy the most with the girl that I love but, on the other hand, I don't want her to force herself to do something that, if I hadn't asked for, she wouldn't do (even though she loves it).

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Re: GF loves anal but won’t do it

Post by throwawaymedfree » Sat Mar 07, 2020 11:00 am

It doesn't seem like she "loves" anal, otherwise she wouldn't resist so much. Also it's one of those things whether a girl likes it or not, and a lot of people are put off my the chance of poop. It's just not their thing.

It could be that she is self concious, then you should let her know you are mature enough to not mind a bit of accidents and that you want her to be comfortable. That you are attracted to her and enjoy her ass either way. Enemas are not necessary to be clean, in fact can be harmful if you do it too much. If it's stomach ache, make sure it's not an underlying health problem.

I would focus on foreplay with butt plug, you can lick her asshole and play with the plug (even if it ends up as vaginal sex) to help her associate anal with pleasure and being desired. Like a pavlov's dog thing going on.
Alover wrote:
Tue Mar 03, 2020 2:00 pm
would you see it as manipulative if your boyfriend told you that doing anal makes him happy?

Yes, because her being comfortable (especially as a receiver) is more important than what you want. She already knows anal makes you happy. Try to figure out what's in it for her instead.
DMs welcome

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Re: GF loves anal but won’t do it

Post by herbleck » Mon Sep 25, 2023 8:28 am

PetGirl wrote:
Tue Mar 03, 2020 9:49 am
I used to be like your girlfriend but over time I realized how turned on I get by anything anal and I am now addicted to how horny it makes me.
Things that helped me get into doing it more often:

Wearing a butt plug every day (this is the main one)
Watching anal porn and reading erotica about anal or about orgasm/clitoral denial
Using a douche bulb to rinse my rectum with just a small amount of water
Getting a bidet to make it easy to keep clean
Setting the expectation with my partner that I should keep my ass ready for him. I just do a little routine when I get home after work. I put my plug in- wear it for a bit- then go check if things are clean in there. If not give myself a rinse. Put the plug back in.

I went from anal a few times a year to a few times a week. Good luck!

Could you explain a little more about your cleaning routine? You don't get any issues to do it daily?

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Re: GF loves anal but won’t do it

Post by Backdoorlover » Mon Sep 25, 2023 10:57 am

@herbleck, you revived a 3 year old tread. Big chance most of the writers aren’t even on the forum anymore 🤷🏻‍♂️

To aswer your question: my girlfriend rinces her rectum daily, because she always wants to be ready to take me from ass to mouth. The douche she uses had an 8 cm tip, so it only cleans her rectum, the water doesn ‘t enter her collon. In the 2 years she’s been doing it, we only hit the jackpot sometimes (so poop on my cock) if I fuck her really deep for a long time, and even then it’s occasional.

So like 29/30 times she sucks it straight out of her ass. Anal cleaning doesn’t have to be complicated or time consuming. She likes the routine now. It gives her confidence that the chance for poop is minimalized. It doesn’t do anything about sponanaity, cause I can still fuck her whenever I want. In those cases it’s just without ass to mouth.
Backdoorlover’s quote:

“Ass to mouth is the only right way to have sex”🔥

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Re: GF loves anal but won’t do it

Post by herbleck » Mon Sep 25, 2023 11:34 am

Backdoorlover wrote:
Mon Sep 25, 2023 10:57 am
@herbleck, you revived a 3 year old tread. Big chance most of the writers aren’t even on the forum anymore 🤷🏻‍♂️

To aswer your question: my girlfriend rinces her rectum daily, because she always wants to be ready to take me from ass to mouth. The douche she uses had an 8 cm tip, so it only cleans her rectum, the water doesn ‘t enter her collon. In the 2 years she’s been doing it, we only hit the jackpot sometimes (so poop on my cock) if I fuck her really deep for a long time, and even then it’s occasional.

So like 29/30 times she sucks it straight out of her ass. Anal cleaning doesn’t have to be complicated or time consuming. She likes the routine now. It gives her confidence that the chance for poop is minimalized. It doesn’t do anything about sponanaity, cause I can still fuck her whenever I want. In those cases it’s just without ass to mouth.

Hello Backdoorlove, im searching for a way to clean my gf ass, according to the internet, she cannot use that type of anal cleansing for more than 2 days in a row because it damages the natural flora of his ass

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Re: GF loves anal but won’t do it

Post by Colt1911 » Mon Sep 25, 2023 2:23 pm

@herbleck some on the forum clean out with a water or saline enema frequently. Negative effects may occur to some but not all people.

Also, many on the forum who engage in anal daily don’t clean out at all prior to anal sex. My wife and I have had anal without prep, but she’s constantly worried I’ll encounter something. It wouldn’t bother me if that happened (it has happened and I quickly wipe it away without saying anything)

There is no other way I can think of to avoid a little “dirt” other than cleaning out with water or saline. Some anal receivers eat a very strict, high fiber diet to make sure their bowels are completely evacuated before having anal sex. However, this means your partner will have to wait to have a bowel movement.

We have anal sex several times a week and she’s never had an issue with water or saline, and she has a very sensitive gut because of her celiac’s disease.

Last, unless you’re engaging in deep anal play, she only needs to clean out her rectum. Too much water seeps into the intestines which requires MUCH more water and could impact gut flora. Use only enough water to cleanse the rectum. Enjoy your anal ventures.

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