Curious about the anal only lifestyle or anal sex in general but have questions or concerns? Ask away here.
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My wife started menopause around 45 yo and now 52 yo. We are working her back into anal since I now have a inflatable penile implant and can get great erect ions anytime. She says, that she doesn’t have the hormones to orgasm from anal anymore. We never had a lot of anal, couple times a year, but she always had big orgasms from it.
My question is are there women that still orgasm and enjoy anal during and after menopause?
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- Joined: Mon Oct 14, 2013 9:05 pm
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- Location: Las Vegas, NV
I feel bad no one responded to your inquiry. My wife is perimenopausal, which comes with all the negatives of having a period and all of the negatives of menopause. She had a couple of months where she felt off and her libido dipped. On top of that, her mom was battling cancer at the time. Not that she didn't continue to have sex, she just wasn't that into it. This was a drastic change, as my wife usually got off four or five times a week. When she visited our doctor for her annual physical, she talked to her about it. Her doctor sent her to an endocrinologist. The endocrinologist asked her some questions, took blood and urine samples. About a week later my wife returned. The doctor said she was perimenopausal and outlined a treatment plan. Within two weeks my wife was back to normal. Now she visits the endocrinologist quarterly (well, there's only been two quarters so far) to see if things need to be adjusted.
The point is; yes, women can very much enjoy anal sex, whether pre, peri, or post menopause. I would highly recommend talking to your wife about seeing her doctor for a referral to an endocrinologist. I've talked with several post menopausal couples who found they actually enjoyed anal sex more post menopause, or even transitioned to anal only, due to the dryness issues and loss of feeling many women experience post menopause.
With any luck, you'll make her happy putting some milage on that inflatable penis.
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- Joined: Fri Dec 30, 2016 11:51 pm
- Gender: Female
Hello. Mr just forwarded this question to me.
I’m 49 and premenopausal. Earlier this year I was experiencing the very same thing - not being able to orgasm during anal - and my libido was on a roller coaster. I love my Mr (we’ve been together for 30+ years) and we have been AO for 5+ years. This was frustrating for us as well.
Our solution... lots of conversations about loving each other and still having anal even though I didn’t really feel like it. During sex, my excitement would kick in and even though I wouldn’t orgasm from PiA, our work around was using the magic wand on my clit and Mr using a finger in my ass - a retraining. I also found these books - What Your Doctor May Not Tell You About PreMenopause (1999) and WYDMNTYA Menopause (1996). A little older publications but these are full of many women’s experiences of this stage in life and the holistic approaches that helped them through it. My own take away was to start taking Vit B12 and Magnesium. It has helped stabilize my libido (my overall mood really) and has contributed to my anal pleasure. It has taken the majority of this Covid pandemic for me to get to enjoy PiA orgasms again.
I hope this helps and that you both get back to enjoying each other.
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My wife is 62, we are more into anal than ever. Age is just an excuse
Tis better to give and recieve
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- Joined: Fri Jan 08, 2021 9:52 am
- Gender: Female
- Location: New Mexico, USA
Well I am pushiing 70 this year and I don't find that menopause has affected my libido at all. However, everyone is different and it has to do with chemicals and desire as well. Making anal only a goal has only increased my desire and it is a privilege to be allowed to express my sexuality in this way.